[DivasMomma]

I see a lot of you here did things pretty quick like we did...we have one daughter that will be 2 in nov and one due in nov...i have a question since most of you have kids about 2 yrs apart...
My Jaeclyn was always SUCH a great kid...that is until recently...
yes i understand they go through the terrible twos and all that but i did figure something out the other day...the horrible behavior (like hitting mommy and using NO in a tone i cant even explain, and just not listening AT ALL) all began the other day....conicidence that it started once i began bringing baby stuff into the house? I started washing all the newborn clothes, and bringing them up to the drawers, and a lot of people have been dropping off presents for the baby. The worst was this morning...i was putting together the bassinet and Jaecy was just trying to climb all over me. it did frustrate me because i was already frustrated with the crib. then she started hitting me...and hard! she just would not listen...i try to give her attention and get her new things so she doesnt feel left out with all the new baby stuff, but i can only buy her so many presents before she just expects them all the time.....help? advice? is this normal?

thanks

[twinzplus3]

I'm sure her behavior is related to the new baby and being in her two's. It's a difficult time. I wouldn't waste my money buying presents honestly. . .It means very little to her other than a new toy. . .and she likely does not feel more 'included' bc she has more cool toys.

What do you do when she throws a tantrum like that?

[DivasMomma]

well i started by trying smacking her butt when she hit me....then she would just hit me harder....so i moved on to the time out chair...made her sit for a minute, which had NO affect what-so-ever...so now i tried putting her in her bedroom with the door closed, but she knows how to use her dvd player so that doesnt work either unless i wanna take everything out of her room. blah, so im out of ideas at this point. I even tried letting her lay in the bassinet and encouraging her to help mommy with the baby's clothes, like folding them and putting them away...but she still threw the tantrums...i guess im just still not used to this kind of behavior from her

[MommaColleen]

When I had DD #1 DS was exactly 25 months old. He was already potty trained and his behavior was for the most part pretty good.

Once he saw us changing the new babies diaper he regressed. He started going in his pants, throwing temper tantrums when we held the baby, trying to make noise to wake her up, etc. My MIL told me that DH did the same thing when his little brother was born. He even went as far as to flip the bassinet upside down; my brother in law fell flat on his face.

I think it is very normal and good news is it should pass. Just remember to spend as much time as you can with your daughter so she doesn’t feel left out. Also, in preparation of the new baby maybe try to get he involved in getting everything ready. That should help make he feel like she is a big helper...most kids like that.

Good luck!

[Alejandros Mommy]

Can you ask you husband or someone to take the baby for a bit. It sounds like you really need to spend time with your DD. That is why she is acting out. She needs to know that even though there is a 'new person' in the house her mommy loves her just as much as before. This may decrease some of the behaviour.

As for reg tantrums.Take her DVD player away..its something that she loves. Just make sure she see's you taking it away...and tell her that she needs to behave 'good for a long time' in order to get it back. HTH Good luck....this is a hard age...but it does get better.

[DivasMomma]

well thats the problem...i didnt even have the baby yet! i still have 6 weeks to go and i dont even wanna know how she is gonna act once Kaydee gets here

[Tracey with 6]

it's a stage, she'llll grow out of it, it may just take a while, keep up the naughty chair, and I agree with removing the dvd player , good luck

[mommartin]

How ever you deside to discipline you need to be consistant with it. She needs to know that if she does x then y will happen. Good luck with the new baby and remember to include her as well. I know it took my oldest a little longer to adjust to a new baby the first time then the next so hang in there it will get better.

[twinzplus3]

Originally Posted by DivasMomma

well i started by trying smacking her butt when she hit me....then she would just hit me harder....so i moved on to the time out chair...made her sit for a minute, which had NO affect what-so-ever...so now i tried putting her in her bedroom with the door closed, but she knows how to use her dvd player so that doesnt work either unless i wanna take everything out of her room.

Whatever you decide stick with it. Anything you do will be ineffective because you're changing plans. If you're going to time out. . .then you make it work. If you're going to stick her in her room, then I don't know why you can't take out the DVD player?

[shaddivin]

While I was pregnant with my 2nd and 3rd, I found as many books and movies about being an older sibling as I could and read/watched them as much as we could. I think that helped them understand what was going on and what to expect when the new baby came. We didn't have much jealousy or regression with #2 or #3. Good luck and hug and kiss her as much as time allows.