[lrichards]

I have an 8 year old boy who is ADHD. We recently took him off his meds because of the side affects. He was already starting to get real defiant when ever he did not get his way even when he was on his meds, but now the school is saying he will do no work at all and he will just sit there. He completly shuts down. He does this at home to. He shuts down anytime you hurt his feelings or he does not get what he wants. Everything has become a battle. From cleaning his room to doing basic things. Does anybody have any advice. I have a meeting with the school on Thursday.

[Samual]

Does he go to behavorial lessons? They are proven to always be better than drugs, which often cause a great deal of problems. Have you tried ignoring him and not letting him get his own way, even the most determined children give up when they realise paddy's don't work anymore.

[nat014]

Don't know if that can help. I had some type of behavioral problems with my kids. After some research, I discovered developmental therapy, a techniques that uses brushing. It work on the primitive reflexes. It really helped. Can not say it works on every child but it has helped me. It is not invasive and does not use medicine.
Good luck

[QueenAngie]

Nathalie, I never heard of brushing before.
Please explain.
I goggled and was not able to locate any information on this technique.

OP, I believe your son does need some behavior modification.
Maybe go through your physician for a counselor.
Easier to get this under control at age 8....than age 16.

[daddyoftwogirls]

The one-two-three... Magic! method worked really well with my kids. Author is Dr Phelan. I'm sure it's in Amazon or some good bookstore with education books

[stevep3577]

Hi there
not sure if this will help, but we had a problem with our duaghter not tidying her room or helping around the house. In the end, i just started doing it with her, put some of her music on (quite loud) and we both tidied her room together, i think she just did'nt know how to do it or it just looked to hard for her to do. she still moans about tidying her room but there is no real battle, she just gets on with it now and on her own, she also helps with other things now. i try to get her to do it everyday that way she only has a couple of things put away.
hope this helps

[momonline]

I empathize with you. It's not easy parenting a defiant child. One Program that has helped many parents of defiant children is The Total Transformation Program which is specially designed with the needs of the difficult, defiant child in mind.