[KSWinHSV]

I've been married 3 months, and we were together 2 years before that, but didn't live together. We've both always had a high sex drive. He's 11 years older than me, so he was always impressed that he could "keep up with me". Now that we've gotten married, it seems we're having half the sex we used to! We used to at least 5 days a week, but now it's maybe 2. He told me he feels more like doing it in the morning, I prefer it at night. I've been trying to wake him up in the mornings (even though I have to get up at 5 am!!) and I mostly get turned down. He promised to work on the nighttime loving, and he'll do it once or twice and then I'm back to being turned down, until I say something to him again and then he'll give in. I'm also doing all the initiating! I feel like a sex crazed manic who's having to beg for sex and I hate it!!

[DivasMomma]

haha welcome to marriage!

My DH and i are young (Im 23, hes 22) and you would think we would be like rabbits not the case....we've been married about 8 months and its only about 2x's a week for us too....same thing has happened every night this week....we talk about it all day long...then my oldest wont go to sleep...then by the time she does get to sleep one of us is asleep too! I would recommend what we try to do, if there are no kids....leave sexy notes (with his lunch if he takes one too work), phone messages (esp if u have texting), emails, anything you can think of...that will get him thinking all day long and leave him in suspence! GL and hope it works for you!!

[1stTimeMomOf2]

Yes - welcome to marriage! I've been married 6 months, my husband is 9 years older than me, and we didn't live together either. We used to have sex a lot before as well, but now that we're married and I'm pregnant it really never happens. I know it's hard for him because he still finds me attractive so I try to build myself up at least once a week. I think after I have the babies (twins) we'll probably have sex more because we are still very attracted to each other. Now, with that being said... you don't have kids so I would try all sorts of things to spice it up. Like Rhianna said, try sexy notes, texts and emails. Find out what really gets to him and use it to your advantage... you obviously have conflicting schedules so it's going to be hard to work it out but if you compromise and he compromises you should both be satisfied. Stick it out, its hard in the beginning to get used to the whole marriage thing but once you have it figured out it will be great.

[lovingmemory]

I'm not a newlywed anymore, been married three years and we've been together twice that long. In the begining we were rabbits, there's no other way to put it, we were each others first too. Our sex live has been a rollercoaster. I think it's how life is going and the stress of it that affects our sex life. We're both really good at telling each other that we need it and we both go through the not wanting it. Anyway, love notes are sweet and can be naughty if you have a mind to do that kind of thing. Books are great, lots of good stuff in there, games are fun too. Be open minded. I'm a morning person and my husband is a night person so on the nights we do it I stay up then fall right to sleep after, it relaxes me, the husband doesn't mind. He's hard to wake up in the morning but gets up once a week early so if I'm in the mood that's when I pounce. I think things will get back to "normal" once the two of you learn to live together more, that a lot to take in. Date nights are fun too.

[allygal]

It is so unusual to hear a woman talking like this, so bravo to you. This is an area where we just don't communicate very well with our spouses. I recently found a some really helpful advice from some experts on sexual intimacy. http://iquestions.com/browse/intimacy?over18=1 I bet you'd find something here that might be able to help you out. This place has lots of other info about relationships, too. Keep talking...he may just be going through a tough time.
Best,
Ally