[la_senorita]

I'm 38 and been dating a single dad now for just under 3 months. We've had a passionate dating relationship for the first 2 months and we are have so much in common. He verbally treats with with the utmost respect and is very considerate when we're together. Even though we had sex on our 3rd date he still wines & dines me, takes me dancing out to lunch & to the movies and always makes sure we both had fun. We both have this thing about positive thinking & we try to bounce off eachother. He has had a successful business for the last 20 years & works weird hours & in betweens is able to enjoy days off with his son who is 3 years old. I too have a 15 year old son. When it comes to planing dates (as we call it) I noticed he would fit me into to his calender and thats how we've dated ever since (mainly on his terms). He also has made a point of not introducing me to his friends which for now i'm fine with whilst we're taking it slow. We both sms eachother wonderful affectionate messages and he's made me feel quite special. He told me we had chemistry & he's even bought me a toothbrush for when I stay at his house. We only see eachother twice a week and he makes sure he keeps the interest there by telling me he wants to take me overseas, and he's never felt like this about anyone before, tells me he misses me & that I make him feel like a 16 year old. After 2 months we came to a cross road. He had a day in court over custody of his son which did not go his way. I noticed from that moment he started pulling back and didn't hear from him for a couple of days. When we next spoke I told him I would be there for him I just didn't want him shutting me out and letting it affect us. He was open in telling me that he didn't want to dramas with his ex being part of the foundation of our relationship however, a week later after noticing he's distance in calls & sms's I asked him if where we were headed and what exactly were we (trying to define the relationship) He couldn't quite answer my question directly & told me we should take things slow and let things unfold. We have been nicknaming eachother lovers for the last 2 months as I didn't want to put any pressure as I too am happy to take things slow. Just don't want it to be based on false hopes. Over the next week or so there was the game playing and I had to pull back a bit myself. I notice he's calls & sms's became less & not as affectionate. We normally catch up twice a week but this particular week neither of us initiated a date. After 5 days he rang & told me I was almost a stranger and the conversation was distant between us. We had organised to catch up over the weekend. I'm rather confused over one particular msg where he had said he was sorry about the way things are & he was trying to sort it out & did not know what it was going to take to do that as it is new ground. He was (i'm guessing) referring to the ex wife issues (as she is constantly lashing out at him) and it tells me that he's sorry that its not fair on me. I didn't want to add to the pressure so I never brought it up. When I saw him on the weekend things between us we so distant, I felt as if I no longer knew who he was. Next morning I just had a bad gut feeling and I was a mess. I went & sat in a park for 3 hours thinking a reading all sorts of dating advice print outs trying to find answers. After 3 tearful hours I decided I needed time to think about things so I sms'd him telling him I was hurt & confused. I also told him we both needed time out as I understood he is emotionally unstable right now and didn't need me around to make matter worse. He responded 'I understand, I'm sorry'. Its been 5 long hards days since & I'm not really sure how much time & space I should give him & wether or not he is worth pursuing as I have developed strong feelings for him & he knows it. I just find communication really difficult with him and I need to know how he feels about me. But most importantly I can't handle the fact that he's pulled back so suddenly. Is it to do with his wife or because I tried to define the relationship & it was bad timing. I sense he has a trust issue & is afraid of getting hurt. He's a successful business man he & his ex were together for 4 years & now she's trying to get a large sum from him that he has worked for all his life. I understand this and can't blame him for being cautious however I also need to look after myself. I need some guidance & clarity.
Are these comments considered Red flags.
I'm good at pretending, we all are
you'll never forget me
I know you think about me when we're apart but feel fine when we're together
My son is the only one who fulfills my life
I want to take you overseas & meet your relatives
Mentioned a weekend away. Hasn't mentioned it since after the first month
No expectations! No disapointments!
Please Help!