[jahspromise]

1. Back when my daughter, Isabel, was born in 2003, my neice who is 3 years older then I, and my great neice, her daughter, who is 25 now, saw my daughter and you could tell their disgust and shock by my daughters appearance. (She has a port wine stain in her face just in case you forgot lol) They both said "Are you going to get that removed?" They just acted so appalled by it that it hurt my feelings so much that I hadn't talked to them in coming on 2 years. Well, my neice and her daughter, came to see me last weekend. Isabel was with her father, so they didn't see her, except in a photograph. It was great seeing them, but just three days later. I was talking to my neice on the phone and she told me that Britney, who is almost 8 made a comment that if her hair was red, she'd have it dyed blonde, because red hair is ugly. which is a comment that my neice (her grandma) made years ago, and now her granddaughter is saying it. Britney has very very blond hair. I've always known that my neice has disliked red hair but to say something like that to me? When my youngest has red hair? I happen to think it's beauitful and so do hundreds of people who approach me and say how beautiful she and her hair is. (you can see her picture in my profile) My dillemma is... Do I really want to associate with these people? Not the child, I mean the adults. What would you do?

2. My other matter is regarding my xh who isn't the most brilliant man alive. Okay, he makes over a thousand dollars a month, and he lives with friends. When its' time to take his twin daughters, he rents a motel room. By 11 am he has to be out of that hotel room, right? Well, he calls here at 10 am, wanting to either drop the girls off, when his visitation is until 6 pm, or just drop one off because he goes to his brothers house. The one twin hates it over there because they talk behind my back and it's boring is what she tells me. He goes over to his brothers house, where there are NO other kids and NO toys, NO nothing, to watch car races on tv. Now... I thought that visitation time is supposed to be spent having fun and interacting with your child? Am I wrong? Is there anything WRONG with him wanting to watch car races and go to a place where one of our daughters doesn't want to go? He only sees them 4 times a month and that's it. Every other weekend. The last three Sunday's he's dropped one of them off here, and our daughter was very upset. How interesting can a car race be for a 10 year old?

Thanks in advance for any and all advice you can give to me.