So.. I hope this is the right place to put this.. and I am sorry if this is too long.. But we are struggling as a family with what to do.. and some outside help would be great!.. Thank you in adance for your responses..
I'm not sure where to start so I will just start with the current problems and go from there..
My sister is about 29 years old and has an 8 year old son. She is a single mother and has gone through college and gotten her RN. She always said she didn't want children and when her son was born, my mother, her sister(our aunt) and I watched him, 23/7(I say 23 because she MAYBE had him for an hour or so..). My mom would have him durning the day, and when she would go to work she would meet me at the door of the school and drop him off to me till my sister decided she wanted him for a couple hours.. Our aunt and her husband had him a lot on weekends.. She partied and got drunk a lot.
Also, when he was little (1-4) he liked to play with matches and lighters and set the carpet on fire, her bed... that she was SLEEPING in.. and her car.. after he had locked himself in it on accident.. remind you.. he was no older then 4. He never got hurt thank God!
They were going to take him away from her, but she pulled her head out of her butt and started being a mother and so everyone backed off.. resently this has changed..
This past week he got an inschool suspension (he's 8.. in 1st grade!) because he took a pearing knife to school and got caught. She found the note in his bag when she came to pick him up on Saturday and told/asked my husband to talk to him about it because he is saying its because he was going to go hunting. She also said that it started with a butter knife and now has become a pearing knife.. So she has caught him with knifes before. My mom told us that she was with my sister and nephew and he was "hiding" something in his coat and wouldn't say what it was and so my sister just grabbed him and stuck her hand in his coat pocket and got cut because he was hiding a pearing knife in there. (I believe he was coming from school.) So.. He has taken a knife to school at least 3 times and only got caught once.
She came over to our house Saturday to get him because our mom was watching our daughter and him so we could have a night out. She went out and got plowed.. totally drunk and came over with a hang out, asked to shower at our house.. which wasn't a big deal, but mom & I were making brunch and she was walking around the kitchen wanting a towel while her son was holding my daughter and she was bawling, but when I said something got crabbed at. She also just laid around after that and slept while my hubby & I had to "watch" her son and yell at him when he was naughty, but then we get yelled at for saying something to him.
Her & I got into it on Sunday and she isn't talking to me at the moment. My mom talked to her today and she(my sister) was all crabby and stuff. She told my mom that she was doing the best she could and if she wanted to go out and get drunk every weekend she will and if we try and take her son then we wont ever seen him.. at least for awhile. And all this other crazy stuff.
She also has 4 grown cats in her house.. and one cat just had 6 babies. Her house smells like cats.. and isn't always.. clean.. not like lived in dirty.. like.. yuck dirty.
We are at a lose on what to do.. any help would be great!
nephew/sister problem..
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