[Lonely19]

I don't really know where to begin. My boyfriend and I were unsettled (to say the least) when we found out I was pregnant. There were lots of fights and words exchanged due to the stress and the confusion. Just as things were becoming more settled and the idea was growing on both of us. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. Now I feel incredibly guilty. I only told a few very close friends that I was pregnant and their basic emotion when I told them was "Oh, that sucks...". Now that I've had a miscarriage and I've told them the same response is "Oh that, that sucks...". I feel incredibly alone, isolated and guilty all at the same time.
Not one person has asked "How are you? Are you OK?". I went to the doctor looking for answers and he rushed me out of the doctors office telling me we would just continue blood work. I was walking down the hallway with tears my eyes. I'm a young, single woman and all the questions of "why, what, how, and if I'll be able to conceive again?" were never answered. I also feel like I should be locked up in a loony bin. One minute I'm OK interacting with the world, the next I feel like I'm watching everyone else interact and I'm left out of the mix trying to figure out how they're so happy...

[quagmire8]

Having a miscarriage can be very isolating. Even the closest of friends can be insensitive beyond words. Unless a person has experienced the pain of a loss, they usually find it hard to relate and even feel very awkward, which is ironic since YOU are the one hurting so badly and should not have to worry about making others feel awkward. The good news is that it does get better. Time helps. Try to ignore the insensitive comments. Also, most miscarriages are isolated events specific to that particular pregnancy and have no bearing on future pregnancies. This is a wonderful site to find support. I came to this site looking for a shoulder to lean on after my first miscarriage and found an army of support.

[2girls]

I agree completely with Quagmire8.
A miscarriage is something that is not understood emotionally by others unless they have had the unfortunate experience themselves.
I found the most support from those who were in my shoes before me and understood completely what the emotions are like. And the more you talk about it, the more you will find people who've been there.
I too came to this site in search of support after the loss of my baby. The support was wonderful and I've stuck around ever since.
Here is a big because I know you could use one right now.

[klkvenus]

I'm sorry for your loss. You will find great comfort and understanding here! We all know what you're going thru!