[deniseh1006]

Hi,
My name is Denise and my husband's name is Joe. Last Aug. 11th we lost our baby girl Kimberly Ann at 21 weeks gestation. She was born the day after our son's 2nd birthday. Our son was born at 29 weeks by emergency C-section due to Placental Abruption. When they did the C-section he was breech and already half-way down the birth canal. When they pulled him out it damaged my cervix. This is in turn caused Incompetent Cervix with my pregnancy with Kimberly. We were lucky enough to have her on earth with us for 20 minutes before God called her home. My parents were able to make it to the hospital just before she was born so they were also able to hold her. The last year has been full of ups and downs, but we are going to start trying for another baby hopefully by Aug or Sept. Has anyone on here ever had the cervical stitching done and not have to be on bedrest? My OB told me that I would not have to be, but every woman that I have talked to said that they did. If I have to be on bedrest I probably won't try again because I don't think that it would be fair to our son and it would make him resent the baby. I am just a little confused as to what to do. I go back to my OB for my 1 year check-up on the 25th and I will be asking a lot of questions. Just want to get some personal experiences. Thank you!

[MiaCamille]

So sorry for you loss.... i wanted to welcome you to the group and i hope you find the info you're looking for. Good luck!

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board!

So sorry for your loss last year. She will always have a special place in your heart.

Sending you baby dust!

[poliscmjr]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice but I hope you get the answers you're looking for on the 25th.

Welcome to the Family...you're going to love it here!

[mollymae]

Welcome to the group I'm so sorry for your lose. I know a couple of girls I have spoken to have had a cervical stitch and not been on bedrest. I think it depends on how weak your cervix is. I would listen to you OB as only they know what damage was done.

[Klarka]

welcome to the forum. sorry to hear about your lost. Unfortunately I do not have any advice, but I wanted to wish you good luck with everything.

[2006Mama]

Sorry for your loss ....

[angelstarsmum]

so so sorry for your loss,(((hugs))) i have to have a stitch when i get PG again and my OB told me i don't need bedrest. Good luck ttc keep us posted.x

[Linas31]

so sorry about your loss. I am also new to the forum...I have not had a cervical stitch done but wanted to say welcome and I hope you find the information you need.

[susglob]

I just lost our son too due to Incompetent Cervix. I had my daughter full term with no stich (cause it was too late when they discovered it), but total bedrest until my 7th month.
With my son they suggested i dont get the stich since i went into full term with my daughter. Big mistake as i sad we lost him. I strongly believe in bedrest even with the stich. I have spoken with women in another forum that had the stich and no bedrest and made it great. When i have another child i will do them both. I know its not fair to our other kids, but we have to explain to them that this will have to be done. That is why i will wait until my daughter is older and understanding so that i can take care of my self more and maybe talk to her and have an "opinion" if you will or so she can say how she feels. It almost traumatized my daughter when i stayed in the hospital for long and never mind that they were talking to me about staying in the hospital until i'd go in term. And we were willing to do it, but you are right it wouldnt have been fair to my daughter..
If you want to listen to me you have to have your bedrest as well. Even if the doc tell you no I PERSONALLY would do it and i will.
Good Luck to you I hope i helped you a little bit.. If you need to talk more please do so..