03-13-2008, 02:43 PM
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Now how do I bring this one up?
 
ok well i go on craiglist quite often looking for baby things for sale. Ive been going on a lot lately to find a playground set for the backyard...
If you know Craiglist then you know when you click on the link it stays purple, even when you sign out then sign back in. all the other links are blue that you have never clicked on.
The only ones that I ever go to are for sale- baby/kids, outdoor, and toys/games
well today i sign on and over in the personals section men seeking women and private encounters are purple  
Dh is the only other person on this computer....i dont want to act like I dont trust him, but I really dont at this point...hes the only one who works but i do the finances and there is always money "missing"...he always claims he borrowed money off someone and paid them back, or bought a big lunch, etc...it doesnt add up sometimes.....what do I do....how do I bring it up....i tried calling him and couldnt even talk im so upset
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03-13-2008, 02:59 PM
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You have every right to bring it up. a) You didn't go snooping for suspicious activity; you found it quite by accident, and b) He is your husband and you have 2 beautiful kids together so you have a right to know.
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03-13-2008, 03:04 PM
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yup, ask. Can't hurt.
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03-13-2008, 03:06 PM
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finally got on the hone with him and could barely speak....i told him what i had found and how i had found it (I actually did some snooping after and found quite a few adult sites he was on as well) i asked him why....at first he claimed he didnt know what i was talking about...then it was "ooooo i went because kid chris (radio DJ) was talking about the prices and i wanted to see for myself, its not like you could see anything!" i jsut hung up the phone and refuse to answer
i just dont know what to do....i wanna pack the kids up and go somewhere for the night to cool off, but being he is the only one who works, thats not gonna happen
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03-13-2008, 03:15 PM
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Block the sites. Get the software to block the sites. You have kids in the house, the computer does not do that stuff. Period.
Or get spyware to figure out more. I know women who have registered with those porno meet and greet sites, checked out the husband's profile, and trapped him into online infidelity. Not something I recommend, but only if it is a serious problem and you really really need to know.
This is probably just him being curious, as he said. So don't blow it out of proportion unless you think there is something more.
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03-13-2008, 03:45 PM
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As far as the "personal services" go I'd be slightly concerned, but my guess is he probably was just looking out of curiosity, esp. with everything in the news the past few days about Gov. Spitzer.
That being said . . . if it were my DH I'd be much more upset about the other adult sites. I know numerous marriages and relationships, just within my circle of friends, that have nearly been destroyed by pornography. I understand your position as a SAHM, but make it clear to DH that this is not something you condone and/or support. I would NOT be ok if I found DH had visited adult sites and he knows it. In fact, he has an "accountability partner" he is lliterally accountable to (besides me) that holds him to his comittment to stay as far away from porn, in all it's forms.
I understand others may have a different stance than I do and that is their perogotive--I just know that if I were in your shoes we'd be having a serious talk.
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03-13-2008, 04:38 PM
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I can't offer any good advice...I would be in the same boat as you, not sure what to think or do! I'd just be too upset to think clearly. I just want to say that I am so sorry that this is happening (whatever this is) and I hope that he hasn't taken anything any further!  s I hope you work things out |
03-13-2008, 05:34 PM
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I'm so sorry sweetie! I know this has to be horrible! Try to calm down and talk to him about it more. Hopefully it's all a big misunderstanding! If not....  Keep your chin up honey!
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03-13-2008, 06:14 PM
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I am so sorry, that is not a good place to be.
I personally wouldn't be too upset about porn sites as much as a site where he is actually talking with someone or meeting people. (don't get me wrong, I wouldn't be happy about porn sites, but it would be the lesser of 2 evils)
I would try to find out more. Talk to him.
Do you have family you could stay with if you need to?
Hang in there,
Hugs to you
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03-13-2008, 07:09 PM
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When ever I have something 'emotional' to talk to DH about (I write better than talk sometimes), I write out what I want to say. This way I don't leave out anything I need to say or questions I may have.
As for - just dont know what to do....i wanna pack the kids up and go somewhere for the night to cool off, but being he is the only one who works, thats not gonna happen - why can't you? If you have access to the $ (which you should), you can get a hotel room. Or stay with a friend or family member (you don't even have to tell them what's going on if you don't want).
Good luck, I hope you guys work through it.
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