[keac]

I have been sober for 12 years now but when I drank it was no fun for my husband! I was one of the lucky ones I got help and my DH stayed with me, We have been married for 25 years now, I don't mind talking about it I use be a head of a board there are alot of people that just don't like to start! I hope that if there is other's out there that want someone to talk to know that I'm here!
Karen

[lewis4498]

Thank you for being so brave & stepping forward. I myself have never had a drinking problem, but have known people who do....I do hope that others will feel free to discuss this openly. Good luck

[keac]

I thank you! I to hope more people with step up! Face it it's not fun for the drinker or there family's! But to quit you have to want too! or hit the bottom!

Karen

[sle64]

I think it's really wonderful that you were one of the fortunate ones and strong enough to overcome and continue to maintain your sobriety. I am 41 and my mother died in 1996 from alcoholism. Her entire life was spent creating caoss for everyone around her. I became a co dependant of sorts (I did not have a drinking problem, but might as well have). I eventually learned that she was in a lot of pain to have let it get her in the end. She just did not know how to cope, and no matter how we all tried to get her help (she was in rehab also) she just could not overcome it. I can only imagine how hard the road was for you. You must have had a great support system and the genuine will to fight. Congradulations on your 12 years!

[keac]

I thank you! I'm sorry about your Mother, Some times the pain is so deep that we can't work it out! I thank god every day! I'm glad that they have this part of the new board, Its a starting place if someone wants help! I guess I can say it but everyone one that I know still have to work one not picking a drink up! One of the frist people that took me to a AA meeting is now drinking again! Its very easy to go back to bad habits!

Karen

[beth]

Hi Karen, first of all congratulations on your great acheivement! I'm sure it's probably the hardest thing you'll ever have to do in your life. I've watched a friend of mine go down that path, come out of it, go down again. I think whatever our weakness, when we're stressed we gravitate towards it again whether it's drinking or getting ulcers or getting depressed. Or all three! It's also hard watching loved ones slide back into the hole. My friend is currently on the way back down and I've learned from experience that I really just have to wait till she hits rock bottom, any "help" offered on the way down is dismissed. You can probably identify with that. It's a terrible disease.

[keac]

Yes Beth I have seen it happen and your right you just have to wait it out! It's so hard to watch it happen that you want to pick them up and try to stop but your hands are tied! Your talking to a brick wall!

Thanks for your well wishes!

[tracy_fam]

First off, I would just like to say congratulations on your 12 years of sobriety!
My mother is an alcoholic, we all know it but she is in denial. My father is at his wits end and doesn't know what to do. Friends of the family have stopped calling or coming for visits. All of us "kids" are married and have families of our own, but it hurts us to see that she needs help but is unwilling to accept the fact that she needs help.
What do we do?

[keac]

If not please let me know and I'll write you again!

[luvstheaddict]

Originally Posted by keac

I have been sober for 12 years now but when I drank it was no fun for my husband! I was one of the lucky ones I got help and my DH stayed with me, We have been married for 25 years now, I don't mind talking about it I use be a head of a board there are alot of people that just don't like to start! I hope that if there is other's out there that want someone to talk to know that I'm here!
Karen

I first like to say congrats!
I am married to an alcohlic,and since we have gotten married at the beginning of the year,he has gotten worst.
I knew he drank when we were dating but,not that this sound right,but he pretty much cut back big time. He gets very arugumentive,but never physicially abusive.I do know that mentally and verbally is worst.
He wont stop drinking,and I do know that I cant make him stop,but is there a way to wake him up? He promised me today that he is going to straighten up and yes,I heard this before,since he is so afraid to lose me-it took him so long to even get me to go out with him.I left my ex-husband,who is not a drinker at all,and he does know I will pick up and leave him if this all gets out of hand.
We have had a crazy last two weekend and our friends are looking at me like,I should be doing something.I just let it blow over,hoping that today we can talk,but I dont want to sound like I am nagging him.He is also a person who cant talk about his emotions and talking is somewhat difficult.
What is a good way to approach him?