I have a son who is 15 and is finishing up is freshman year of high school. He found a girl online and they have been talking for about seven months. He met her once at a concert just recently. The girl invited my son to spend the day with her at her house. There was going to be adult supervision, however I was uncomfortable and said no. I trust my son that he will not engage in any sexual activity, but I felt as if it is immoral and inappropriate for my son to be at a girls house by himself. Now he's extremely upset with me for rejecting his request. Do you think my decision was correct?
Personally, I think that type of decision is made as a parent in the best interest of the child. In this case, you are thinking about your son. He is 15, of course, he is going to be upset. - That's just a part of parenting.
If you are uncomfortable with the situation as it was presented, you could always tell your son that he can spend the day with this girl. At YOUR house. That way, you'll be able to meet this girl and you'll be around for adult supervision.
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Maybe I misunderstood but you said there was going to be adult supervision at the girls house. If that is the case, why wouldn't you have called to speak to the parents and be comfortable with situation.
The other option I would have taken is to talk to your son about other options that are not all day. he is going to be extremely bored at her house all day. My counselling to him would be you will have more fun and make a better impression if you keep it short and sweet. Go out to a coffee shop, or two hours of ping pong at her house.
Don't judge me but I think what you did was wrong. Your kid's a boy and I think you should let him experience some of these stuff. Being a teen comes only once and I think you should loosen your leash a bit. Of course he's going to get mad, everyone's gonna get mad if they weren't allowed to some stuff. But I think you should control him a little less, that sometimes might lead to unwanted rebellion especially if he really likes this girl very much and you keep them apart. Just my 2 cents.
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ur son is bound to get mad dear. Kids at this age generally do not like interference frm their parents (even thou we are right) They would want to do stuff that they are interested in or what their frds/age-group ppl do. In ur case you should have rather invited the girl to your plc or else u could have suggested ur son to take her out to a coffee-shop or meet and spend time at some near by mall.
Speak to ur children sweetly and lovingly and try to make the conversation as friendly as u can rather then making it sound as thou u r imposing ur decisions on them.
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