[purelegance]

Since we moved, i joined a texas moms forum and i just can't help but think these women are absolutely crazy! One lady popped in for advice because her ~2 yr old is biting and ALL of the responses were "it's just a stage, they'll grow out of it." and examples of stories on how three 5 year olds have to get separated often because of hitting. like it was no big deal that kids are hitting & biting eachother! I just couldn't believe that this was the parenting advice being handed out. Izzy bit once.. maybe twice and that was IT. I certainly didn't just accept it as a phase and let it continue.

PLEASE tell me i'm not crazy and the rest of the world doesn't just accept biting as a phase.

[quagmire8]

my babies are too young to bite, but when they do start with that some age-appropriate discipline is in order!

[mcmama]

Biting isn't just a phase, but it is something that does happen with toddlers and twos. The good news is that they are not over reacting, biting them back, and so on. The bad news is that a biter often needs redirecting, and to know that biting is wrong, it hurts, etc. So if these women are being passive about it, that's no good either.

It helps to know why the child is biting - just biting in general, or a particular person? Are they angry, frustrated? Sometimes giving a child something to bite, such as a stuffed animal, when they "feel so mad they could bite" really helps. When they do bite, I always found in daycare it was best to isolate them with time out or just saying no you cannot play until you calm down and give more attention to the victim.

Sounds like these gals want to socialize and don't want to get into the discussion of things like biting and hitting too deeply.

[wanna be a young mother]

Nevy never bite anyone. Then again Nevy didnt get teeth until she was 16 months old lol. We don't allow that at all. She did get upset with me once and "attempted" to slap me. She was placed in timeout for 3 mins and never did it again. It's funny how different areas raise kids differently.

[mollymae]

Jack bit someone once at a toddler group, he was about 2 at the time I think. I took him home I was so mortified. He never did it again though.

Libby has bitten Molly a couple of times and spent time on the naughty step.

It's not uncommon for kids to bite and it's not a bad parenting thing but they do need to be told off each and everytime. How will they know it's a bad thing to do otherwise?

[purelegance]

i know biting can't be controlled at first, it's bound to happen. But these women are allowing it to continue until they grow out of it. That's what's shocking to me!

[Samual]

Mike's used to bite a lot, one day he bit a little girl at play group, she bit him back, worked a treat, he never did it again.

[kalhayd2]

Kenzie was a biter. We redirected. However, I did accept it as an age appropriate behavior. When kids lack verbal skills they often take out their frustrations via biting or hitting.
We reminded her that biting isn't nice- but I surely wasn't going to bite back or spank for it. I also am a FIRM believer in time out minutes per age(1 year, 1 minute).