[JeanLynn81]

Alyssa has always played well with others.

Until a few days ago.

Now she doesn't want anything to do with anyone but me. This has even gotten so bad she doesn't want Grandma to hold her.

She had her buddy Stella (18mo) over yesterday, and kept screaming at her and screaming at me and Stella's mom. She just couldn't be consoled. I thought it was just because we were in Alyssa's territory. As soon as they left, my dd was sweet as pie.

Today, we go to see her cousin, and she acts the same way. All the kids were swimming and Alyssa screamed everytime I tried putting her in the pool. She loves going over there and I just can't understand why she's doing this. She's not acting sick, but mabe I should take her to the doctor anyways? I just don't know what to do. Someone help! I cannot take much more whining and screaming.

I say "no" and she throws a fit. If she wants to run off and I make her hold my hand...fit. If she wants something another baby has and I won't let her take it...fit. If I give her a sippy cup instead of a bottle...sippy cup gets launched and...fit.

Is anyone getting the picture here? Seriously, I need some advice. My mom just laughs and shrugs her shoulders and says its my problem. I guess deep down she's happy that I'm getting back what I gave her.

[KR258]

Kate never has had a problem with people (well except when she was a tiny tiny baby) So I'm not sure what to do about that but everything else you mentioned sounds normal to me. Katelyn throws fits over the smallest things...I would say it's a phase that can turn into a problem if you give into her fits. Just keep telling her no and you can probably do time outs....that should help her behave better but it will take time for her to get that mommy isn't going to just give her everything. hth Good Luck!

[MommyDee]

Sounds like Miss Alyssa is sneaking up on the terrible twos lol -- in fact, she sounds a LOT like my niece. She gave my bro and SIL a rough time there for awhile -- grabby, tantrums, whining, crying -- but she's grown out of it again. Kara's right; set limits, stick to your guns, and it will make things go a lot easier on both of you!

[erinellakal]

Definetly, for sure a stage. and Like the PP's said it sounds lots like terrible 2's.
Erin went thru terrible 2's just horribly! Its like you don' t even recongize them when they're throwing thier fits! Then as soon as it starts its over and they're back as sweet as ever! Little Stinkers!
She is learning that being defiant gets your attention. You can try just walking away and when she is calmed down explain to her what she can do when she is mad instead of crying and screaming. Of couse in terms a 21 month old can understand. If you stay calm she may play off of that and calm down faster and more easily too.

Good luck. It will pass!

[Alejandros Mommy]

Welcome to the terrible 2's Jean. Aiden is at this stage now. He drives me and dh up the wall at times. I have no real advice (Alejandro was never like this) as I am going through this stage for the first time too. Your not alone and I hope this stage passes soon!

[LovingJesusinAZ]

Add me to the list of Moms who's experiencing this fits right now, too. DS is an August '06 baby, too and the last few months have been ROUGH!!!!

My little guy is a thrower---if he's mad at me he'll throw something--anything. He'll even cross the room to go find something to throw if nothing is convenient. We're also going through the whole "throw myself on the floor and scream" thing.

My advice is the same as all the other ladies---try and be patient, knowing it's a phase, and stick to your guns!! It may be easier to give in (goodness knows it is!!!), but in the long run she needs to know Mommy's the boss!

Good luck!

[twinzplus3]

Welcome to the club Jean! I'll add this: if you are consistent with your discpline and boundaries in this phase. . .you will find that you have to discipline less as they get older. My three older children only need a look or to be spoken to at this point. My twins are getting there as they end this phase. . .. . .but they're still highly dependent on their nap schedule!

[ruthann8]

I agree consistency works the best. Of course I have no experience with 2 year olds.....yet, but I do work with people with disabilities and find consistency works.

[Labhaoise]

Sounds like fun at your house Jean!
I hope this phase goes by quickly for you.