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Old 09-13-2009, 05:12 PM
TheEinNC
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Unhappy Please Someone Help Me

I recently walked in on my six year old son basically teaching my three your old nephew how to masturbate. i could hear from outside the door him say "touch it like this and this does that feel good." I walked in thankful that they were touching their own penises and not sharing the love! this was a few days ago. i sat down with both of them and told them it was normal to do it if it feels good but it is not and will never be ok to do it together. This is something that only should be done alone. Today that same thing happened. i sat down and had the same talk and told my son they would not be able to be alone together if i saw it again. i asked questions like why do you do it? and where did u learn it? and if they had ever done it with anyone before? my sister had the same talk with her son. only hers told her that my son was touching his ***** and hugging and did the motions of humping one another. I again had the talk with my son, he said he didnt do any of that stuff, he doesnt know where he learned it and he had never done it before. i dont think that my nephew could come up with that all on his own so i dont know what i could do! i am freaked and frustrated and i just want to cry. please tell me what i can do??
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Old 09-13-2009, 07:42 PM
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He had to have learned it somewhere. Friends? School? Movies? TV? Scary situation.
I would probably tell them that it isn't appropriate to show each other their private parts or touch (even if they haven't). I know that children are curious about their bodies, but this is a bit young to be exploring their bodies like this.
Hopefully that will help out.
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Old 10-03-2009, 05:16 PM
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I would suggest not leaving them alone together again. Also monitor your son's friends and TV. Talk to a professional, possibly someone in his doctor's office to get a better understanding since you are so concerned. You have stated your expectations to your son as you have, so he should understand that this is private behavior. Most children do some exploration and they have to be taught boundaries.

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