[LeanyBean]

My children have become monsters. They ignore my presence practically 24/7/365 unless they want something from me. I can tell them over and over and over yet again what I want them or need them to do. Ignorance in return. I can yell at them, spank them, put them in time outs and take away toys and privileges. Still they accomplish nothing except making bigger messes and ignoring me. Any other adult on the planet tells them something just once and poof! the monster disappears and a polite, obliging little boy takes their place.

When anyone asks them why they just didn't do it when I told them to they say they didn't know. Of course when I tell them their disrespect hurts my feelings and it makes me want to move out and go away. I get blank stares and no reaction.

I just need to know that I'm not the only person this happens to.

The whole mess is putting strain on my marriage, a heavy weight on my heart and is causing such stress that I just want explode. Literally explode. Burn white hot and flatten everything within a 10 mile radius.

This is the whole ****** reason I HATE summer vacation ( and weekends that the hubby works and snow days and school holidays).

~feeling so hurt and inadequate that I cannot describe its intensity~

[onavirgojourney]

Hi,leanybean. Question is one of them the ring leader?

[LeanyBean]

No ring leader. One may start it one day and another the next day. They all seem to be the 'monkey see, monkey do' type, though.

[purelegance]

you're definitely not alone, i just have no advice, just hugs!

[QueenAngie]

Time to get a vacation for one. Even a long weekend away from them to give you all a new perspective. Let DH deal with them the entire weekend and you go to a friend's or your parents' by yourself.

We all know you are a wonderful Mom. Your 4 darlings just need reminding about it.

How about a job chart for the refrig?

(((Hugs)))

[shellieg]

Sometimes we as parents just lack to the tools and know how as to how to work with our children. Everyone always says that they wish that they had an owners manual for their children. www.enjoy.myfamilyiq.com is a great site that has really helped my family. I have learned about the importance of learning each of my childrens love languages and how to speak their love language so that they feel loved. I found out how to use behavioral contracting to work with my kids to handle problems without having to yell at them or nag them about things as much. I learned my own parenting style and how that effects my family. I believe this web site is the owners manual we have all been looking for. Hope it helps you as much as it has me.