[broken777]

Hello all, quick POLL here... I am attempting to discern what healthy needs are in a partner. Would you please list your top 10 marital/relationship needs in descending order of what is importance to you being happy? (they don't have to be from my list) #1 being most important, and then 2, 3, 4, 5...
(Try this list with just 5 qualities, it is just not enough!)

I believe mine are:
1) Emotionally supportive
2) Family oriented, loves family events
3) A peaceful and loving nature, avoids conflicts
4) Nurturing in my work, hopes, dreams
5) Mutual spiritual philosophies and ideals
6) Open minded sexuality
7) Physically affectionate; initiates intimacy often
Willingness to think outside the box
9) Follows the rules of arguing, lives in the now, uses I statements
10) Self empowered, desires greatness, aspires to be more

thanks, this should be fun and insightful.

[danigirl]

i am only in college now so my needs are probably different than others but here are mine
1. Ambitious, I dont want a guy that can't make it in todays world
2. Loving, I want a guy who wants me and can't see his world without me
3. Wants what is best for me/ respects me, supports me at school, wants me to have a good job
4. Great personality, spontanious, romantic, a little weird, enjoys being naked, makes me laugh, holds me when i cry
5.Attractive, someone who takes care of their body, doesnt smoke, isnt extremely overweight, etc.
6.Does everything in his power to keep me happy, calls for no reason, gives me flowers, takes me out, always invites me along where ever he is going
7. Shares the same goals, marriage, kids, christian, etc.
8. Loves to have sex with me, (shouldnt be too hard to find)
9. Doesnt mind to argue/debate but can admit when wrong
10. Naturally a good person

[mcmama]

This is a good idea for a discussion. And you've listed some marvelous things.

Broken777, do you mean "avoids conflicts" - or "finds ways to resolve conflicts"? Avoiding conflict in a marriage can mean lots of trouble in communication.