[tat2mama]

I am new to this so if someone could guide me to the right forum that would be great. I am 30 and 8 weeks pregnant and the baby's father wants nothing to do with the baby. We recently broke up after living together for a few weeks and I moved back in with my father as I am still also going through a divorce (for the last 2 years with my husband who actually isn't a looney...amazing how you figure out who the good ones are too little too late) The father of my child has threatened through other people saying he was going to file a PFA against me! In the hopes that I won't be able to contact him about child support is what i'm guessing... I have even made the decision to not contact him until the baby was born until tonight he began texting me saying I was lying, keep my mouth shut and that it wasn't his. ( Believe me i wish it wasn't!) He began saying horrible things about me like that he knows i'm out drinking which is absurd i smoked about a pack a day and quit that...for gods sake i just turned 30 and drank cranberry juice all night. I would never EVER do anything to harm my innocent child that never asked for this situation to be born into...i asked him to leave me alone and we can solve this when the baby is born in court as there is nothing we can do until then. He will not be reasonable and talk on the phone or in person but only text ( which is confusing enough) and is now saying he will file a PFA against me. This scares me as I have done nothing wrong other then getting pregnant... i am already having enough stress dealing with being a single mom let alone being scared i will have to have time and money taken from me to go to court to fight a bogus PFA b/c he wants to run from his responsibility. I almost think he is doing this to cause me to either have a miscarriage or convince me to abort which is not an option for me. I am beginning to get scared that he doesn't want this baby so bad that what if he is willing to do something to me. I do not want to file a PFA b/c i do not want to waste the taxpayers dollars or cause undue stress as I have never been threatened specifically but really just want to know how a PFA works and if he is able to really manipulate the system so he will not have a financial responsibility to my child. I also want to know if there is any place for support for people in this situation. This is my first baby and all i have ever wanted was to be a mom...I imagined it so much different then this but I am trying so hard to fight the stress and do what is right for the baby. I can truly see how being a mom changes people...I feel the mama tiger in me coming out wanting to do all I can to provide a safe, healthy, happy, and stable life for this little angel but I could use the support b/c i feel very much alone.