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Old 11-06-2009, 01:42 PM
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Default Preschool = Bad behavior at home??

Vinnie (4) and CeJay (3) started preschool this past monday. It's 6 (9am-3pm) hours, every day. They LOVE it. Every morning they are excited to go, and every day when I pick them up I get good reports from the teachers saying that they behave and listen well. CeJay's teacher even said she never heard such wonderful manners from someone so small But, as SOON as we walk out the doors, they are TERRIBLE! Literally as soon as we leave. It's terrible. I'm not saying my kids are perfect angels, but they always listened well and were pretty well behaved for the most part. Today CeJay ran right into the parking lot, and threw a HUGE fit when I told him to hold my hand. He NEVER did this before, he always knows to hold my (or another grown ups) hand. The tantrums are terrible and are about the smallest things. They don't listen what so ever. It's only been a week, but it's driving me crazy!! They are wild and crazy and out of control! Could this be from starting preschool some how???? Vinnie came home DEMANDING gum today. He KNOWS that he is never allowed to have it. He threw a huge fit, screaming and hitting furniture and having a major crying melt down. Over gum. Over something that he is never allowed to have. I know that school doesn't give them gum, or do anything I wouldn't approve of, they are the best private school in my area and are sort of strict with only eating healthy foods (they serve lunch there) and positive reinforcements only and such. They love school, but are they acting out because of it??? I'm so excited to pick them up, but as soon as I do the screaming whining kicking crying starts... It takes them a good 2 hours or so to become "normal" again. Anything I can do to STOP this BEFORE it drives me insane??
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Old 11-06-2009, 08:07 PM
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Both girls do thi...still...2 months into school. Kaydee is the WORST! She cried from 5pm when i pick her up until she goes to bed. I think its mainly because they dont see me much anymore I try not to react to them...if i ignore her she usually stops, well sorta. Jaecy is just a brat and has SUCH a bad attitude...like a 16 yr old girl already. Its def from the other kids so nothing i can help except reminding her we dont act like that at OUR house. Threatning to take away Disney helps too lol
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Old 11-07-2009, 07:10 PM
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i'm guessing it's coming from the other kids, the kids either are telling your boys that they can do this that and the other to get their own way and/or they are seeing the other kids behave like that and get away with it

my cousin has been bring her DD over a bit lately and the 2 girls are picking up things from each other... like after the last time they were here Gabby started calling me Kylie (a no go for me... she quickly learnt that Kylie got no response) and as Gabby weight isn't terribly good i make sure she eats by feeding her myself, Jennalee decided that she wanted her mum to feed her too (my cousin just flat refuse to do it... a case of feed yourself or starve)
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Old 11-11-2009, 02:54 AM
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Kids pick up things easily. And yes, they are learning this from the other kids at school. You cannot stop it but you can experiment with a few parenting styles. e.g. be firm when they behave stubborn so that they take a no as a NO from you. Try it out. I am sure it will work!
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Old 11-11-2009, 10:26 PM
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Another thought: are they missing their afternoon naps?

Sometimes, I can recall that little ones do not always do well with changing things, transitions, starting something new.

Stand solid on your house rules like holding hands in the parking lot for safety.

You are a great Mom! You will make it through this.
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Old 11-17-2009, 12:37 AM
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Of course he is picking it up from preschool. When kids mingle with each other they tend to pick up a lot of things. Try being firm. Teach him you no means a no. Try different parenting styles. It will help.

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