[jlt1983]

This is my first post here and so here it goes. I got married almost two years ago and it was dissolved 6 months later. what I know now is that my exwife had co-dependant personality disorder and my mother-in-law had borderline personality disorder, which she used to her full advantage. Anyway we got pregnant about 3 months in and her mom told her to leave me.....so she did. We were seeing a counselor but it seemed like there just wasn't enough time to get her the therapy she needed before she left. We ended up placing our daughter for adoption and it seemed to bond us together. We haven't gone longer than two months without contacting or seeing eachother. However it has always been one-sided where she wanted to work it out and I didn't or vice versa. I think we are getting close to being in the same place as far as wanting to work it out but I am unsure how to determine if this will work. My view is that if both people are willing and devoted it can work. I do feel that her condition will make it more difficult. I don't know how to tell if she is able to cope with it now well enough to be what a wife needs to be for her husband. Will things be different the second time around? how can I safe gaurd initially to prevent long-term consequences? Answers? Thanks!