[gonnabeamommy509]

Quick Vent and I'm done.

Today I had Christmas with my moms side of the family. TONS of people, aunts uncles cousins grandparents...everyone! We were all laughing and joking about my pregnancy and the things that have happened and will happen. Suddenly my aunt and unlce come charging into the room hushing everyone because their daughters (my cousins) were in the room. (7 and 5 I think...) They haven't passed along the news to the kids and didn't want them to know because I'm having an illegitimate child which makes me a bad role model apparently. So, my family (who is all way cool about the pg) stops talking about it and changes the subject

It just hurt my feelings. Yea, I know there are better ways to do this, but it happened and you know what, I'm excited about it. So who are they to tell me I can't talk to my family about it and be happy with everyone?? I'm considering not going to the next family affair because right now this is the biggest thing in my life and if they want me not to talk about it and share it with my family than I don't really need to be around them. And it sucks even more because I do love them and respect them so much. It just hurts that suddenly I need to feel outcast because of them and uncomfortable to talk with my family when they or their kids are around. My other uncle's girlfriend got me something for the baby as a present and even came over and warned me to open it after I leave.

I'm sorry, but am I the only one who thinks it's ridiculous that I'm not allowed to share this experience with my family because these two think less of me for it???

[mollymae]

But how would you you feel if someone told your child something you wanted to keep from them till it becomes necessary to tell them? I wouldn't see it has a big thing (I never married the father of my first 3 children) but they do have the right to raise their children however they see fit, as do you.

[gonnabeamommy509]

If they didn't want their kids to know, they could have brought them downstairs rather than change the course of everyone's conversation. I understand them not wanting their kids to know yet, but to make me feel like I'm not allowed to be happy about this experience is a whole different thing. They act as though I should be ashamed of my pregnancy. If it's to the point where I have other family members seeking me out and apologizing to me for the way my aunt and uncle were acting and treating me, I think it becomes less about how they want to raise their kids and more about how they're treating me.

[Momof2kids]

What are they going to tell the kids after your child is born? He's borrowed? Duh? Maybe they should have been prepared.....imo

[KR258]

I understand where they're coming from...and where you're coming from. If it hurts you, you should talk to them without their children around about how they made you feel and how you feel about your baby. I am sorry they're not all as accepting as they should be. Obviously it's too late....you are pregnant and you love your baby. It shouldn't matter how it happened. Children that young probably don't even really get how babies are made anyway! I agree though they should have just removed their children from the situation instead....at some point their kids are going to find out you have a baby...but maybe they're just waiting till the baby is born so they don't have to explain how babies are born?

[Kats Playland]

I can understand both sides, but either way it's like a kick in the gut... I've gone threw situations like this with some of my inlaw's and it's not the best feeling. They should have come rushing into the room forcing everyone to change the subject, but maybe asked everyone before hand to try and not talk about it when thier children were around. But I agree, what are they going to do when the baby shows up??
Just keep your head up high and don't let thier actions upset you or bring you down. It's normally the family that's acts "better than the rest" end up with situations worse than the rest.

[QueenAngie]

Just ignore them! Stay happy and healthy for you and baby!

(Wait 10 years and perhaps one of those two will have a baby too.
Wonder what the aunt & uncle will say then?)