[JeanLynn81]

Have you ever had to take a step back and figure out where your priorities lie, and it turns out that some of your friends aren't on the spectrum?

I think I'm going through some kind of epiphany. For so long I have been the one making all the effort to keep some of my friendships together. I make the phone calls, and plan the get-togethers. I feel like I've made all this effort for people who really could care less if I was there or not.

I hate throwing away 10 year friendships over some paranoid thinking, but after expressing my concerns, not a one of them ever called me to see if I was ok, or what the problem was. So I guess with that, off they go.

I spend all my time working and taking care of my daughter. They spend all their time drinking and wondering when they are going to get laid again. I guess things just change, and so do friends.

I'm just a little sad today. But its good to get a few things off my chest.

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[erinellakal]

I understand how you're feeling. I had to cut some losses as well. Its for the better though, you'll make new friends that appreciate the fact that you're a MOM first.
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[LovingJesusinAZ]

((HUGS)) I know it's hard, but I think you're making the best decision for you and your daughter.

As erinellakal said . . . you're a MOM first and it's hard when your friends share different priorities/interests.

[purelegance]

at one point or another, some things just come to an end. i've had to cut ties with a few friends, most of these ties have since been re-tied however. they just weren't done with their party days like i was. it's very very very tough, IMO it's actually tougher to break up with a best friend than with a boyfriend. but it is just one of those things that have to happen, if the universe has it in the cards that these friends are supossed to be there, then they'll be back before long.

[MommaColleen]

I think that is just the way we grow and mature as people.

DH and I were the 1st to get married from our group of regular friends (maybe 20 or so of us). That was 14 years ago and do you know that we only speak to 1 of those people still? They didn't get the whole "we are married and are starting a family" way of life. Now we seem to be friends with our kids' friend's families (did that make sense?).

[QueenAngie]

As friends grow older,
sometimes friends also grow apart
emotionally,
distance-wise,
family-wise.

I once had a dear friend for several years.
She has a good heart, but was very needy.
Got to the point, too needy.
So much, that I could not fix her neediness.
Neither could her family,
her doctor,
her medications,
her minister,
her church.

While I pray for her, I had to step-back and
handle things w/ my own family and put them as a priority.

It's tough, but the best for you and your family, Jean!

[Labhaoise]

yeah Jean I understand how you feel, but not necessarily in the Mum sense though

Alot of the people I went to h.s with are just really into the whole, lets go out clubbing and get plastered. I'm really just not that sort of person. I like to have fun as much as the next person, but the kind that I can remember the next day So I dont see or talk to them much at all anymore.

But it is hard just to say goodbye to someone thats been apart of your life for so long. s for you

[wanna be a young mother]

Yep I know how you feel. One of my best friends of over 15 years was the same way. I got sick of calling her and trying to get together. The last straw was at my baby shower. She was out the night before drinking and didnt show up to my shower b/c of a hangover. I was so hurt and mad! She never said she was sorry and from that day on I never spoke to her again. I wont lie there are times I miss her but why do I need someone like that in mine & Nevys life? I promise you are better off without people like that!

[jmmv08]

As friends grow older, sometimes friends also grow apart emotionally,
distance-wise, family-wise.

Well said. I definitely agree.