[stephanienminnesota]

Ok, so I had posted part of this in another thread in the counseling section. I am friends with a girl named Julie and have known her since 7th grade. Well, After ex and I split those 2 got together. I found out that ex (Chris) had cheated on Julie with another girl Dixie (reason I got divorced). Anyway, I didn't tell Julie that Chris had cheated b/c she would've said I was either lying or jealous. So, Julie found out that I knew and is now currently really mad at me and not talking to me. That sucks in ittself but also she has a twin brother who I hang with alot and now he thinks I did wrong but seriously I didn't know what to do since this is Chris's "specialty" to women. He just can't have one he has to have a whole group that he does this to. Any and all advice would come in handy right now cause I don't know what else to do? I have tried apologizing a ton and tried many other things I just don't know what else to do... I don't want to lose my 2 close friends but right now neither one trust me or believe me.

[songbirdxx]

Steph,it must have been terrible carrying the burden of knowing your friend was being cheated on. Apart from telling her that knowing this made you sick to your stomach and clueless as to what to do for the best, given he was an ex of yours,I really don't think there is much else you can do until they see sense and realise this was nothing to do with you.Your friend must be very hurt.In time I am sure she will see what a good and loyal mate you are and that you never intended to hurt her by not telling her.Perhaps you could tell her you were only trying to protect her.

[QueenAngie]

How very sad!

Why should you be apologizing when you did not create the mess, the ex did. Sounds like your two friends are taking out their anger on the ex onto you. It is not your fault that the ex strays.

Give it some time.
Quit apologizing to these friends.
Start writing a daily journal if this helps.

Wishing you all the best!

[stephanienminnesota]

Well, I talked to Julie and she said I should've let her find out for herself and now says she wants nothing to do with Chris . He is now blaming me for telling her but I didn't want to see her get hurt because of his stupidity (no offense). As for her brother, he says now he can see why I didn't tell her right away but says if there is ever a situation like that again then tell her right away. Oh well, I should get running seeing as to it is their birthday and I got them coming over for dinner and to hang out tonight. Thank you for the advice and support.

[DK615617]

I am glad that it worked out for you!!

[MissyChrissy]

I agree with Angie...this situation was not a win-win for you. Most likely if you had told you would have felt their wrath then too. Just wait it out...if they're really friends they'll come around. If not, you didn't lose much to begin with.