[bayouboy]

I waited to have sex until I felt I was with the one. I waited until my wife came into my life. I was 22 years old and felt I did the right thing in waiting. In our early relationship, we had sex often. Over the year we dated, our sexual relationship was strong. After engagement, things were basically the same until a month before the wedding. She wanted the honeymoon to be special, so I agreed. This was where it went downhill. We had sex nearly every night of the honeymoon, but since our wedding 3 months ago, we have had sex 4 times. She would go to fun parties and buy items, but we would only use them once. It is beginning to make me depressed both at home and I feel it is getting to me even at work. I am not a very good communicator and I know this, but I have always been on the quiet side. I would like to discuss this with her, but I don't know how to bring it up. I also don't want her to have sex just because I am complaining.

I always thought when people said the sex ended after marriage was a myth. My ex brother in law divorced my sister after a year of no sex. I refuse to ever divorce my wife, but I need to fix this situation. I am not one who becomes depressed over much, but this is taking quite the toll on my life. I find it hard to sleep because she gets in the bed and turns over. I just lay there thinking.. not knowing what I should say.

[mollymae]

What happens if you try to come on to her?

[coreelements]

I commend you for wanting to stay married and hold true to your vowels.
Making love is what it's about so try not to think about it as just sex. Serving your wife and pleasing her is what you want and what comes from it in a loving pleasing way is a huge benifit. Everyone may have different approaches but you can never go wrong just trying to please her.
Start by telling her you want to please her.
Hope this helps!

[abrahamalegre]

Just remember to stay away from the trap of paralysis analysis. Communicate with her but sometimes it's better not to be confrontational with the serious stuff. Try being light and fun and loving. Kindness breeds further kindness and hopefully it improves your sex life.