[gptrp]

you are a saint..aplaud..aplaud!! I mean it in a good way.

[destin617]

so as of today i found shes been seeing other men, but says she loves me. I took work off last week just to see what she does and every day last week i followed her to her bosses house she was in there for an hour each morning then headed to work but wearing something different then what she left my house in like she keeps clothes at his house.
she suposed to work till 8pm 3 nights a week but left every night @ 5, again followed her once back to her bosses house an 2 other times to different houses, the house that were not her boss had many cars in the drive way an i watched her change in her car into something sexy i have never seen before. she would be in the house for about 2 hours before getting back in the car changing and heading home.
so i keep thinking about things we done together when she has dissapeard for a period of time, like at her company parties i would find my self alone for an hour and couldnt find her. was she off doing him or others?

[lynclarke]

well destin617, I hope you have been doing the introspection I suggested. If she says she loves you, then you must have had the initial confrontation with her already. How are you doing? what is your plan? Remember, at this point what she wants is totally immaterial. But, you have to have a plan. Keep us posted. You can and will make it through this experience whole but with a few dents. Life will get better down the road a piece.

[destin617]

right now i am just tring to see how long this has been going on. with out letting her know, i want to know.

[mcmama]

You are just stringing it out if you keep checking up on her and not let her know what you know.

You know what you know. Never mind proving it. You know. Confront her with what you know. Honesty is best. If she denies it and you still know, move on.

[lynclarke]

destin-- it doesn't matter if it was ten minutes or ten years---it is what it is. Make a plan and move on. You think there will be satisfaction in knowing all the gory details. There will not be. Stop wallowing and start action for YOUR FUTURE. This is upsetting but in terms of your life, it is merely a bump in the rod. Get going.

[mollymae]

100% agree!

[destin617]

as much as it is prolonging it i am now finding out other have know, i need to know who i can trust now and how many people i know have been involved, my father knew but never told me. i think hes involved

[Teacherman]

I'm sorry for what's happened to you. I really am. Sounds very strange about her father. I would take some photos (perhaps) for divorce proceedings.

[lynclarke]

destin-- you are killing yourself slowly...just get out and stay away from her and her "friends". Your father on the other hand---I hope you did not have a close relationship with him. Save yourself and the hell with everyone else. If you focus on "who can I trust" you will end up paranoid and distrustful for the rest of your life. Cut your losses and run! IMHO