[jkennedy]

Hey family friends, I need some advice. When I say no to my 11 month old daughter, she swings her arms and/or hits me out of frustration. She understands when I tell her no. Have your babies done this to you? What worked to stop it? What have you done as far as disciplining? I will cherish any advice. Thank you in advance!

[twinzplus3]

At 11 mos. I just keep saying no in a firm calm voice and made eye contact, by holding hands if need be. You're right. . .she obviously understands you. However, she has no way to say, "Gosh mom, I really wish you'd reconsider!"

At that age, we also worked on teaching "gentle touches" although I can't remember if we did that for the other kids or not. With the twins it was an absolute necessity!

[QueenAngie]

Twinzplus3 is right on target.

"No hitting" and holding hands gets baby's attention. Redirect to something else, if possible.

If you tell an 11 month old child, "No hitting"
and then to hit/spank the child as punishment,
doesn't make much sense.

[kimchee67]

I was going to say the same things as the PP's. Good luck!

[twinzplus3]

I will also add this: whatever you decide to do, it is very important at this age to do the same thing every single time, both you and dh. The message that hitting is not acceptable needs to be abundantly clear. Good luck!

[jkennedy]

Thank you for all of your advice!!!

[mama2riley]

Is this going any better for you? What have you tried so far - has anything specific worked?

[kmomma21]

Hello yes I have had this problem too, the only thing I can do is hold his hand down and look right in his eyes, and say "We dont hit" Its not nice! Now whenever he gets upset, I can tell he thinks real hard about hitting me, then the just slings his arm down. I definately agree with everyones suggestions, its really the only thing that you can do. Right?