11-13-2008, 09:03 AM
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Should we blame our loved ones for taking bad financial decisions?
My DW is med about my financial decisions in the past year.
I do feel bad about being too greedy, although I wouldn't imagined it would have any affect on our marriage 
Should we blame our loved ones for taking bad financial decisions?
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11-13-2008, 06:08 PM
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If you're looking for a pass here, you won't get it from me. Bad financial decisions stress a marriage. And Marriage is about decisions from TWO people, not just one messing it up and the other letting it go. Money is a big problem with marriage troubles.
Perhaps you could benefit from financial counseling.
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11-13-2008, 07:02 PM
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Although I agree, I also believe that when one side in the relationship choose not to take a stand while being fully aware of the financial decisions the other side makes, it can't wake a year later and blame the other side for it...
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11-13-2008, 07:15 PM
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OK, then maybe counseling, period.
Money is a biggie, and disagreements fester. I know folks who still argue about bad decisions 20 years later, because they are now living the consequences.
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11-14-2008, 12:52 AM
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Originally Posted by CaptainLuk
Although I agree, I also believe that when one side in the relationship choose not to take a stand while being fully aware of the financial decisions the other side makes, it can't wake a year later and blame the other side for it...
You should tell be telling each other financial decisions, not just waiting until the other person finds out.
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11-14-2008, 08:01 AM
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Isn't it enough to being aware of the amount invested?
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11-14-2008, 08:10 AM
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I don't think anyone should be blamed for making a 'bad' choice in where they invested last year. NO ONE saw this coming-not even Alan Greenspan. Unless you have a crystal ball, you didn't see it coming either.
Hindsight is 20/20. Millions of people have been affected by this economic crisis, and most the average person made decisions based on the information they had AT THAT TIME.
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11-14-2008, 08:22 AM
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Women have a bigger "Security gland" than men do. so I think when a nest egg disapears, we freak out more. If you're talking about the stock market, unless you need the money in the next 5 yrs., I would try to calm down and wait it out. And try to discuss things calmly without pointing any fingers.
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11-14-2008, 06:28 PM
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The lesson here is not just being aware of the amount being invested - the decision to invest the amount in whatever security or venture needs to be mutual, or at least be discussed openly with all the options.
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