[ruthann8]

Ellamae is throwing a tantrum b/c she wants to go swimming and I said no b/c it’s just too cold out. She is currently screaming so loud she is gagging herself. But anyway I was planning on taking her to the park but since she is throwing a tantrum I don’t want it to seem like tantrums may not get you exactly what you want but they will get you to the park. So anyway should I just skip our afternoon outing or just wait until her tantrum is over, or maybe just go after dinner tonight. And how in the world do you handle this situation when you have multiply kids and you don’t want to ruin it for everybody!

[Labhaoise]

I hope she's stopped screaming now! Your poor ears!
Umm, I think I'd personally skip the outing altogether. Or go after dinner. Could you maybe explain to her that you want to go to the park with her, but if she's going to throw tantrums that you won't go at all? would that work for her?

As for having more than the one kid...I don't think it is fair for the others to miss out. So maybe take them all still, but when you get there, the one that had been misbehaving has to sit with you for 10mins or something before joining in with the others.
HTH!

[mollymae]

She's only very young. I wouldn't consider a 18 month old throwing a tantrum naughty. Tantrums are just a by product of frustration at not being able to understand concepts. I think I tend either put them down for a nap or in time out for a few minutes. I tend to only keep explainations to very small ones very very simple as extended explainations just confuse them further and drag out the tantrums.

For genuine naughty behaviour when they are older and able to clearly understand then we've cancelled outings but only once they'd been warned that if they continued no one's going out.

[RyanDaniels]

Hi ruthann,

I'm new to the forums, and don't know you personally, but I found a really good article that I hope will help you out with the tantrums:

http://ezinearticles.com/?Stop-the-W...re!&id=2589015

Hope that helps,
Ryan

[kalhayd2]

I totally agree with Jo.

Kenzie throws lots and lots of tantrums. I ignore her 99% of the time unless she is hitting or escalating beyond a scream fest.
I don't think she is old enough to know that she has manipulated her way into a park visit, especially if you wait until the tantrum is over.
Ahhh, the joys of toddlers!

[ruthann8]

The whole evening was kind of bad. I think that tantrum kind of ruined her mood. Nothing I did made her happy, so we stayed home and just played outside. That tantrum was a full blown tantrum, lying on the floor kicking & screaming. Today was wonderful! I have my little angle back! She is quite the turd sometimes, when she goes to do something she knows she is not supposed to and I say “no” she gives me a big kiss and tries again!