[littlejessie]

Hi! I am a single mother to my son, who is only 16 months old. his father has not been in his life since we split in june of 2006. My sons father was charged with theft because he would not give me my sons stuff after we split. He keeps threatening to take him from me. His mom says she will help him take him from me too. Brook has only seen him once since we split and that was because i was taking my son for a walk and he saw us. I have offered so many times for brook to see nathaniel but he has always had an exuce. Whether he is too tired and needs sleep or he just doesn't want to see him. Brook does not pay child support. I tried going through the matenance program but they said he doesn't have to pay. I just need some advice. I have to support my son all by myself. I don't mind but I am scared of what the courts will say. Someone please give me some advice or suggest something that i can do to help my case. Thank you.

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board, Littlejessie!

Bet that your son is the sunshine in your life. What a fun age.

No advise from me, but am certain that other friends will respond.

[angelahaynesworth]

Hi! I am also a single parent and have gone through a similar experience. If you are a respectable person and you are not involved in any types of drugs or alcohol then you should seek assistance of child support through the court system. You can not take care of a child all by yourself. Even if the father do not want to have an active role in the childs life the court will ensure that he at least help you pay to take care of the child who eats, drinks, need clothes, shelter, transportation, milk, medicines, and other needs. Why would you take on all of the responsibilities when it took two to tangle and make the baby it should take two to raise or/and be financially responsible.
As far as your mom siding with him, just pray and turn that situation to God. I will pray that your situation turns out right but first that baby needs need to go before your own feelings and ensure that he is being taken care of properly. It takes two to do that. Youre not doing anything wrong to seek support for your child but you are robbing your baby of opportunities of both worlds by allowing the father to be irresponsible. Yes he will be furious at first! but guess what? You have that beautiful baby to look after and that should be all that matters.

Originally Posted by littlejessie

Hi! I am a single mother to my son, who is only 16 months old. his father has not been in his life since we split in june of 2006. My sons father was charged with theft because he would not give me my sons stuff after we split. He keeps threatening to take him from me. His mom says she will help him take him from me too. Brook has only seen him once since we split and that was because i was taking my son for a walk and he saw us. I have offered so many times for brook to see nathaniel but he has always had an exuce. Whether he is too tired and needs sleep or he just doesn't want to see him. Brook does not pay child support. I tried going through the matenance program but they said he doesn't have to pay. I just need some advice. I have to support my son all by myself. I don't mind but I am scared of what the courts will say. Someone please give me some advice or suggest something that i can do to help my case. Thank you.

[AmyasRichard]

It's not easy. A lot of responsibility. I worry about everything. But, there r good things too. Frist laugh, smile, crawling, etc. I wouldn't have any other way. My pride & joy!!!!!

[starlife]

Why did they say he can't pay child support. I wouldn't worry about it either because you take care of him on daily basis and the father has only seen him once and the courts will take that into consideration, so not to worry as long as you have a nice home, a job and can provide for him you are okay - the father is trying to scare you and fear is not a way to live your life. Be the proud mother you are and i am sure things will work out - good luck,..

[browneyes01]

why would you be afraid to go to court if you are being the best mother /father to your son that you can then don't be afraid to go to court. you are doing what you need to do you are being responsible for your son and that's all you can do i don't understand ehy the courts would tell him he doesn't have to pay child support
but keep of the good work of taking care of your little angel

[browneyes01]

hello little jessie how are thing s goingare you having a better week

[starlife]

I completely agree with browneyes01 - you should n't be afraid... how are you doing

[mcmama]

I guess this was a while ago and she didn't come back on to respond. I've been there - being scared of the courts - they really can be manipulated when the non custodial parent and family have money and you don't. It can be part of totally villifying you, and avoiding the truth about what has really happened. And it is frightening.

Best thing to do is get a lawyer who specializes in family law who is not afraid to take on what could be an expensive case - and not afraid to fight back, instead of settling because daddy has money and mommy has none so everybody clap hands. And then go into hock, sell everything, take out loans, and face financial ruin - but keep custody of your child and maintain your integrity and the child's stability.

Money given to lawyers should not "buy" a custody ruling, but many times it does, unfortunately.

[starlife]

You're right but i wish her all the best