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Hi! I really enjoyed your writing...it sounds like we have a very similiar situation. My husband's brother's wife is also very mean...no other words about it but just plain mean. I was inspired that you said you show her the same forgiveness and kindess you want---big kudos to you! I just feel like I try to do that and end up getting hurt every time I'm around her. Does it ever get better? I just wondered how long it has been this way for you? I feel like I'm driving my husband crazy because every time we are at a family function I end up talking about how mean she was to me all the way home. Best of luck to you, thanks for sharing your experience.

Originally Posted by platinumblondemom

I really like what NewYorkMom suggested.
I, too, have a difficult sister-in-law. Unfortunately, it's my husband's brother's wife. She's mean. There's just no other word for it. At any rate, I work hard to guard myself against the mean things I feel, or want to say, and work to show her the courtesy and forgiveness I would like to have shown to me. However, after you've done all you can to make peace, there comes a point where you have to let her behavior just roll off your back, and get on with doing what is best for your whole family. Realize, as it sounds like you do, that the problem is hers, no matter how hard she tries to make it everyone else's. Don't say anything bad about her in front of your kids (assuming you have some). Rise above the problem, setting a great example for the whole family. Continue to be kind, and keep your chin up!
The alternative is to get a dartboard, put a picture of her in the center, and get really good at throwing darts!