[pandanonymous]

Hi all.

My mom has a co-worker who's son has been sick for the past few months. He was in the hospital the first month and my mom would drive her co-worker 2 hours everyday to go and see her son. Now he's out of the hospital and they only go once or twice a week.

I scheduled a follow up doctor's appointment in JULY for October 12th. My mom has known about this appointment since July, but she comes to me on Saturday when she knows that she can't reschedule it and tells me that she can't go because she was to take her co-worker. She called me last night and we got into an arguement because she sees nothing wrong with it, but I completely do. She knows how much more I'd rather have her there. (I have anxiety problems sometimes and I hate needles) She'd rather go through way more trouble of driving her co-worker 2 hours away to spend another 5 hours with her son doing nothing than take me to my appointment that won't even last an hour.

I don't mind that she's NOT going, but it bugs the hell out of me that she's known about my appointment for 3 months and she tells me 2 days in advance that she can't take me and the fact that she'd go through alot more trouble of driving her co-worker around the world. My father even joked that if he was having open heart surgery she'd still rather drive her co-worker than go to see him in the hospital.

I've been pushed aside by my mother my whole life and this definitely doesn't help that "mother daughter" relationship improve over the crap state that it's in now.