[brookedavis_84]

I am the mother of a four year old girl. I do spank sometimes (in addition to using timeout and other methods). Sometimes it seems like it would be effective, but it doens't sting enough. My friend spanks her daughter and son on the bare bottom, and says I should as well, because it works. My mom spanked my bare bottom when I was younger, and I must admit that as much as I hated it, it was effective in changing my behavior.
what are your thoughts on pulling down the pants and spanking on the bare bottom? were you spanked this way growing up and are there any moms who use this method who can tell me if it is effective or not?
Thank you,
Brooke

[DixieChick41964]

Hi!
This is my first post too! I have 4 kids and I spanked when I needed to. Bare bottom or through clothes, but what worked best for me was a hickory. That will sting so bad, but it will stop stinging that fast too. Once then reach about 8 or 9 you don't have to spank anymore because they have things you can actually take away from them to punish them. A younger child's interests go to this to that so fast that taking something away won't work. Their true interests, which are food, shelter and love, of course you cant take away. After they start getting into things you have other options.
There is nothing wrong with spanking, no matter what all those parenting experts of the 80s and 90s tell you. My oldest was born in 89 and I read so much stuff but I saw through it. I did attachement parenting as babies. Baby led nursing and weaning, sleeping with me, etc. And I changed methods gradually as they grew. Such as at 2 when they tried to poke something in a plug I'd take their hand, put it in mine and lightly pop it and say "No baby, thats dangerous" and they would cry and I'd pick them up and love on them but that didn't take away what I had taught them.
Look at how the kids of the hands off generation act now and the kids from before.
Can you say Columbine?