[breemummy]

I have a 8 mth old and have to go back to work due to money (AGAIN always about money) I am placing Bree in family day care and I know the person who is having Bree. It doesn't make it any easier though I am so scared and keep bursting into tears. I know sook! I might b preg again and this just makes things harder. does it get any easier to drop of your little one? I feel sick knowing she wont b with me every day.

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board, Breemummy!




Bree is a sweet name for a sweet baby girl!

Yes, it is tough going back to work and leaving your DD in the care of sitters.
I cried when I had to do the drop-off the 1st time.
My baby boys did just fine, I was the one crying.

You could always have someone else do the drop-off at the daycare.
When you pick them up, baby is so happy to see Mom.

Have you done a PG test? How far along do you thing you are?

There are several families with babies close together on the board here.
Most times, as they grow-up together they are best buddies and very close.

Welcome!

[breemummy]

Ta I have done a preg and it came back neg I don't usually show up till 8 wks preg strange. (Oh I mis carried twice that why I said usually) Bree Jusst woke I'll b back later sorry it so short.

[GraciesMommy]

I feel for you hun! It's hard the first few times, but I'll tell you what. For the first month DH dropped her off and I picked her up and it was great to see her at the end of the day (my DD is only 4 mo.) Then we switched caues DH got a new job so now I drop her off. When I get there in the morning ALL the kids come over yelling "Gracie's here!!" and get excited to see her and come and hold her hands. It's cute cause my DD can't do anything other than "sing" to them.

How long during the day will she be in there? And do you have a lunch break you could go and visit her at? I know it's hard, but you can do it. And those days off that you have with her are so much sweeter!

And BTW, welcome to Families!

[mcmama]

Well, if you didn't cry I'd worry about you. And I am a former family child care provider. All moms go through this - and dads too, to some extent.

I always told parents don't just drop them off and run the first few times - take time to get them settled. Then say goodbye and go. Then pull over on the next block and have a very good cry. Then go to work, get back into your routine, and at your first break, call me to check in.

No matter how much you trust the daycare provider, that first separation is hard. Understand that this is a normal feeling and you are doing the best thing for your family.

Sometimes parents stop by unannounced, and that is fine too. (or it should be in a good child care setting) Just understand that when you do that, both you and the child are going to face a second separation of the day. With a baby that is not a problem, but with a toddler it is very stressful on them. In family child care, interruptions affect the other children in the group as well, but in a good situation they can deal with it.

Get into a routine, and you will feel better about this - don't beat yourself up. Sometimes the stress is telling you that something isn't right - either with the daycare setting or the balance with your job. I had one mom who was so stressed out all the time - and she realized that it wasn't the daycare, and it wasn't the commute (I lived near her office, and she commuted every day with the baby so that she would be close during work hours), although that made things worse - all the stress and bad feeling was job related. She quit, started her own company, and unfortuantely for me had to find a child care provider closer to home, but it was best for her family.

[mommartin]

I am so sorry you have to take her to daycare. I am so thankful I don't have to but I know how difficult it would be if I did. I hope it gets easier for you.