[DivasMomma]

So Jaeclyn has been UNBEARABLE at home. She gets in SO much trouble!! She has been taking out toys when i ask her not too, she does things purposely and stares right as you when she is doing them, and I had enough today!! When i punish her, she does this cry that is more of a high pitch scream. Its horrible

Today i asked to not to pull down all of her stuffed animals off the shelf. I saw her grab one and start to pull. I warned her "If you pull those all down again today I am going to throw them in the trash." She pulled them down as she starred into my eyes.

I went and got the trash bag, and you know what she did?! HELPED ME THROW THEM AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I took them downstairs to the closet, but she thinks they are in thr trash.

Then she was throwing a ball around the house. I warned her twice that I was going to pop the ball if she didnt stop. Well she threw it at my head. So I took a knife out and barely touched the ball (I didnt really want to pop it) But it popped anyway, so trash it went.


Now she is in bed for screaming. I feel so guilty but I dont know what else to do!!!!!! Am i a horrible mother?? Why is she acting this way??

[vanaden]

Be consistent! If you say you're going to do something, do it. I'd pop the ball if I said that's what I was going to do. And those animals would be in the trash at my house! She'll get it and know "hey mama's not fooling around."
She may just be acting out because she's being effected by what's happening at home. Can she express her feelings pretty well? ( I don't remember how old she is, forgive me.) Maybe you should ask her (when she's behaving) if she's feeling mad or sad about something.
Good luck.

[DivasMomma]

she going to be 3 in November....she has never out-right said anything about her feelings. I do noticed she acts up the worst when Kaydee is getting a lot of attention, which she has because she started walking. She also acts the worst when she is sleepy.

Things between DH and I have been great. We resolved a lot of issues, so luckily I dont have that hanging over us anymore.

She is just such a pain!!!

[KR258]

I would say she's upset about something and is trying to get your attention but I don't know what.....maybe she can tell you and you can help her work through it. I don't think you're being too hard on her though. She's old enough she knows better and shes pushing her limits on purpose. Try not to feel bad about it just try to get out of her why she's doing these things or what she's feeling.

[Magic_Mikki]

I agree with Kara-- she is totally pushing her limits! I'm not sure I have much advice for you, but I can totally sympathize! Alex acts the same way, at times! (The younger, one-year old version of the terrible twos! LoL!) And doesn't it just drive you NUTS when she does something she knows she can't do, all the while looking at you, waiting for a reaction?? Grrr! I just try to ignore it, but then of course I wonder if she is acting up because I'm ignoring her! Wow, this motherhood thing sure bites sometimes!

[Tracey with 6]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh , here come the terrible 3's, I beleive the terrible 2's are worse when they turn 3, she is pushing you to see how far you will go, be consistant and stick to your guns, it will work eventually, she is obviously a very strong willed child, if it helps think how well that will stand her when it comes to peer pressure at school.

[QueenAngie]

The joys of having a 2 yo!

We've all been there.
As said above, be consistent every single time.
If you tell her you are going to throw-out, then follow through with it.

As tough as it is right now, you have to set limits.
She must understand that you mean business.
Because when she turns into a teenager, if you think it is bad now,
it will be ten times worse without parental control/limits.

It always seems to me, the one acting out, is the one that
needs extra hugs, kisses, "I love you's," and
a positive nickname....like Sunshine.

You are a good Mom!
So glad to hear that you and DH are back on the same team too.

[lavatea]

Oh, sweetie, I feel your pain. Amelie started acting that way around the same age. I'm sorry to report that she still does. That's a big problem I have with disciplining her. All of my "punishments" are turned around on me! I wish I had some advice. I have heard that strong-willed, defiant children can turn out to be confident adults. Silver lining...

[DK615617]

Good luck to you!!!
All I can say is what everyone else said. Be consistent!!! If you say something you have to follow through. Do not let her catch you saying one thing and not following through, she will run with it!!!! My niece has diven my sister nuts--very very strong willed, stubborn and hard to handle. My sister never followed through, now my niece is 14 and still very stubborn and strong willed. (I think she is a sweetie) But she drives her mom nuts!!!

[Tracey with 6]

oh yes, you have to deal now, don't let her get the upper hand or you'll be paying for years to come