[ProudMommy77]

Something that has been on my mind for the last year has been whether or not our family is complete. My husband and I originally had discussed three children, and after Amber was born (our second DD) he was overwhelmed and has made his decision that he is quite happy with his two girls.

For me, however, I feel like I still want that third child because I won't be living up to a goal I set for myself. Is this bizarre? Does it even make sense? I am having difficulty convincing myself that I, too, could be content with my two beautiful girls. We will not be making the final decision until Amber is three, which we feel would be an appropriate age difference should we decide to have the third child.

Sometimes I hear myself in my head and I feel like I sound like I'm ungrateful for the two that I have when there are so many of you out there who struggled for the ones you have, or continue to struggle to bring a baby into the world.

I suppose I'm wondering how others made the decisions that your family was complete. Was it a tough decision? Did you struggle with your partner on the decision? Any thoughts are appreciated.

[DivasMomma]

I swore when I was pregnant w/ my 2nd DD that i was DONE! I HATED pregnancy, and just was too afraid of having yet another girl as silly as it seems...my DH is also very happy with his 2 DDs....but now, Kaydee is 2 months, I started thinking that maybe I wasnt done after all, but DH is standing ground that he is done....so i guess i dont have any advice for you, but at least u know someone else is going through the same thing

[kristina526]

My husband and I have an 11 year old daughter. She is our world. We are a very close family (game night every other night, dinner together every night, the two of them are brown belts in karate together) we just really enjoy being her parents. I am 31 now and my biological clock is ticking. My husband and I would love to have another child now, but when we mentioned it to our dd she was very against it. she said our family is fine and we should keep it the way it was. Should we allow her to make this decision for us or should we do it anyway. She is good student and is polite and just an easy going kid. I worry that if we go ahead with another child that all this would change. Did we wait too long? any comments will be appreciated

[MiaCamille]

I let dh get a vasectomy and i regret it so much, i have 3 children and i want another one, i know he's done with 3 so i will never have another one unless a miracle happens, so please think about it and make sure you're decision is the right one..

[ProudMommy77]

Originally Posted by DivasMomma

....so i guess i dont have any advice for you, but at least u know someone else is going through the same thing

That is nice to know... perhaps others will have thoughts and stories for us to help us.

[Alejandros Mommy]

I understand Annamae...I thought that 2 was fine. Now I find myself wanting another and trying to find the words to tell Dh how I feel. I honestly think he is happy with just the 2 we have BUT I feel like I am missing "someone" IYKWIM

[MissyChrissy]

I don't think I'll ever feel that my family is complete. At four kids, my mind still sometimes wanders to having one more. Most days, I don't want another...but there are times...

[Kristin1981]

I was done with 2 or so I thought I was happy with my 2 boys and never wanted a girl and thought 2 kids was enough...I got preg with my twins and had a boy and girl....I know for sure I am done now but, I am so happy I got my lil girl

[hennypenny]

I am lucky in that my fiance would love to just keep on having kids but has said that when I am physically or emotionally 'done', he is fine with that. This third child I'm having is our last, unless our contraception fails lol.

[MiaCamille]

Originally Posted by Aiden&Alejandros Mommy

I understand Annamae...I thought that 2 was fine. Now I find myself wanting another and trying to find the words to tell Dh how I feel. I honestly think he is happy with just the 2 we have BUT I feel like I am missing "someone" IYKWIM

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