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As a female and one who used to be a teenager, I can honestly say that I never felt intimidated, forced or seduced into having sex. My friends and I couldn't wait to have sex with our various boyfriends and by the time we hit 16 most of us had done so.
There was no pressure from our boyfriends, and I could say no any time I wanted to, and in fact I did say no numerous times until I was ready.
I don't think you are giving teens enough credit. I know that there are a few who are still immature, but most of them hold down jobs, and make important decisions about their futures regularly. And if you spoke to a teenager recently, and not as a parent, you would quickly realize that they are a lot more mature then most were a few generations ago.
If a 15 year old gets pregnant, you shouldn't 'blame' anyone, you should, as a parent, support them to make the right decision. But to sit there and say, my child is a baby and it must be either the boy friend forcing her to have sex, or the media intimidating her to have sex, well then she will never have to take responsibility for her action in life.
Granted I don't think a 15 year old, regardless of gender, shouldn't be having sex. But I am not naive enough to think that my children won't be when they hit that age, or at least thinking about it. But I think that if children are kept busy in after school activities, clubs and sports they are less likely to be hanging around with too much time on their hands.
Just be smart and have an open relationship with your children and you are more likely to know when she has decided to make the decision to have sex, and you can hope it won't be until she is 18 or 19.
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