[2006Mama]

Ian and Callan are 23 months apart. The first few weeks home with Callan were rough for Ian but he seems to be doing just fine now and he is back to his old self We know we want a third baby , but were not sure when we should start ttc'ing againg since we had 2 mc and a etopic before we got pg with Callan. I was just wondering for those of you who had 3 or more. How far apart they are? How was the adjustment on your other kids?

[VinniesMommy]

I have 3... Vinnie and CeJay are 10 months apart and CeJay and Scarlette are just about 20 months apart. While it's rough for me, it's great for them. Vinnie and CeJay love being big brothers and play with Scarlette all the time. Plus, they are not old enough to really get annoyed when she get's into their stuff, they just move over and let her play too. Good luck with number 3! With me, the closer the better, but that's just me, some people think I'm nuts lol!

[MommaColleen]

Well, my oldest 2 are 25 months to the day apart. They are close as can be (yes, they do still fight ) We were going to have a 3rd but we had a miscarriage. Since this was our 2nd miscarriage (we had 1 before our oldest), we decided to take a break and try again after some time had passed. Emotionally I didn't think I could do it again.

We got comfy in our lives and figured we were good with 2 and that was that. Fast forward 10 years and along came Emma. I think it was a harder adjustment since they were older. They were used to "their lives" and this was a HUGE adjustment. Of course they adore her but I still think it was really difficult on them, especially my youngest. Not to mention we had not had a baby in the house for so long and he to relearn how to do the whole baby thing.

[2006Mama]

Thanks guys I really like the 2 - 2 1/2 year age gap but I would really like a fall/ winter baby. As much as I want another one I am scared of having another etopic pg . I know I need to put my fear to the side and go along with the flow. I figure after april what happens happens , at least i am blessed with my two wonderful boys

[Samual]

There is more or less a two year gap between each of our children, so a small enough gap that means they can play together happily, but they can be their own person too. Mikey loved it when we brought Jamie home, but Jamie was very jealous of Pippa and still is sometimes, I think it depends on the kid no the age gap.

[erinellakal]

Erin and Ella are 33 1/2 months about(just short of 3 years). Ella and Kalen are 2 years apart. I think that it does depend on the kid, but i think its better to have them closer togther.
Erin had a terrible time adjusting to Ella, but Ella didn't really ever show any jelousey toward Kalen.

We tried to have Erin and Ella closer togther but it took us 7 months to get preg with Ella.....It didn't take any trying to get preg. with Kal(he surprised us!). But I am sooo happy that i did get pregnant when i did...i would not have wanted them any further apart(although i didn't know it at the time!)

Now that they are getting bigger I am really loving having a 1 year old, 3 year old and almost 6 year old. MOST of the time!

Good luck!

[browneyes01]

my kids are 14, 10, and 5 and they all adjusted fine because they all got plenty amount of time to be mommys baby and when i was having the second/third the other would be starting school so the baby was always my focus until the others came in from school.

[dhilbert]

i have not been on here to post in a while since i now have 4 children but i had to take a moment to post on this topic. I have 4 children 6,4,20 months and 4 months. 2.5ys between 1+2 and between 2+3 and just shy of 16 months between 3+4, although the longer gap was MUCH easier on me the shorter gap was SOOO much easier on the kids. Having 2 babies is hard work and sometimes i feal like im going insane but they have the BEST bond out of any of my children. We have debated having a 5th but would have to wait 4-5 years due to space issues so if any one has any advice on waiting that lond i would appreciate to hear it lol. good luck with your decision and remember every family, woman is different, some of us need more time than others. (physically, i think i need to wat 4 years, this last one did a number on me cus it was tooo sooon!)

[jkl123]

My children are ages 13, 6, and 8 weeks. I guess I am the oddball here, and like having them spaced so far apart. It has allowed me to be able to focus on one child at a time and really enjoy each and every moment with them. Sometimes, I wish they were closer in age, so they'd have a playmate, but I think for my own 'sanity' purposes ( ), this worked for me.

[thankful]

Well I have three. 19 yrs. 10 and 7. It was pretty easy for us. and our first was 9yrs when her brother was born so she was still our little girl.she loved having a real baby to play with and helped out without knowing how much she really was helping. then we had another little girl when our son was three. I always called her his little baby. Like when we came home from hospital I would say things like "Oh your baby needs a new diaper. or your babies hungery. I think that made him feel close to her right away like he is a big part of her life.which he is. Then when people would come and say how cute and all that goo goo gaa gaa stuff he would take that as a personal compliment. I would have him pick out her little baby clothes for the day and stuff like that. So I have nothing bad to say about 3. I can say I wish we had them a little closer but now I'm 41 with one in collage and i still have little people to make pb&j's for. p.s it would be a cake walk if we didnt love them. but we do . I say GO FOR IT! cathy