[christinelove]

My dh and I are thinking of doing ivf only I am having issues with it.
The reason we would do IVF is: we had his tests and my hsg and hormone levels, i am ok via doctor, and he has low sperm counts. The sperm he has just swims in circles so the fertility doctor says that artificle insemination will not work and he does not want us to spend the money when all the sperm does is swim in circles. He said that the best way was ivf with the injection into the egg.
Ok well I put if off and wanted to try accupunture but that was not possible with my h schedule. we went a couple of times but the doctor needs to see my h more and he works soooo much poor thing. So he has been taking zinc and l-carnitine and says that he will do ivf when i am ready and if we are adopting we better start now as well.
I am fearful of spending all that money on a chance that is not a guarantee with ivf, and I want to adopt as well, but that is more expensive. It is hard to decide. I wish I had all the money in the world and I would adopt 2 children and try ivf as well.
The decision is stressful due to wanting a baby with my husband, and knowing that an adoption could take a long time, and ivf is not absolute. I also am adopted so having my own means so much to me as well.
Please help with stories and ideas you might have on ivf and adotpion and the low sperm count help. I really appreciate the feedback.
Christine

[wanna be a young mother]

As long as you are healthy and under 35 and your dh ONLY has a low count.....your chance of a pregnancy through IVF is about 60-70%. I did IVF myself after trying to have a baby for 5 years (27months of infertility treatments). I got Pg during my first IVF cycle with twins. We lost baby B but baby A is my daughter Nevaeh. You also have to understand that even adoption is not a guarantee. I've heard a few stories of people who have been trying to adopt for years and then the mom's keep changing their minds at the last minute and keep the baby. Adoption also costs more then IVF at least here in Chicago it does. My IVF cycle cost us about $10,000-15,000 and adoption would have cost us $20,000-25,000 b/c of all the fee's and classes. Dont get me wrong I have nothing against adoption. I guess it all comes down to you wanting your own child. With us I promised myself that I would do EVERYTHING I could to have my own child before I adopted. So if you really want your own child then I would say go for the IVF and see. You may just get pregnant on your first cycle like I did but just remember no matter which way you go their are no guarantees. If you have any more ?'s about IVF please feel free to ask me. I really hope you can find the answer you are looking for and I wish you lots of luck!

Here is a link from my Dr.'s office on IVF and Acupuncture.....

Click here


*Also I had a much higher rate of conception for IVF b/c I was only 22 and Dh's sperm count/motility was excellent. I have PCOS which is why I had such a hard time getting pregnant.

[Samual]

Sperm tends to be 'slow' when there is something wrong to prevent undesireable genes carrying on through the gene pool, so if conception occured it may result in an unhealthy child, you can get it all checked out though to see if that is the case or whether his sperm is just unable to form the correct shape.
But Bloody hell where ever you are adoption is expensive, here if you cannot afford the fee's you can get them paid for, ours were around £3000 per child. You have to remember wanting to adopt, doesn't mean you will be able to adopt. Not only that the whole process can be very horrible, if you are approved, it still doesn't mean you will ever be able to adopt. If you do need any advice on adoption, if you are comfortable you can ask.
I do have a question, have you thought about donor sperm?

[Tracey with 6]

my dh has a low sperm count , it has to do with age and health issues, NOT undesirable gene's , we helped this issue through vitamins and lifestyle choices. I would go the IVF route, if the count is the only issue you should have a high chance of succcess, good luck and bless.

[sjdub]

We had to do IVF for the same exact reasons. My husband had a low sperm count. We were very sucessful. We ended up with twins on the first try. I am so happy we did IVF.

I know fertility issues are very stressful. I was so stressed to do IVF for the same reasons you are conserned because of the cost. It was so expensive - $12,000 and there are no garuntees with it.

When I look at my babies every day and their perfect little faces it is worth everything!!! They bring me more joy than anything in the world. It was worth taking the risk and spending the money se saved for 4 years.

[JoanMarlene]

I think you should do the IVF and wait on the adoption stuff. You have to think ahead far into your future and think about what you'll have wanted yourself to do!! Will you be glad you tried your best to have your own baby? Will you regret not doing IVF just because of the money? I know a lot of women feel like they should try all they can, such as IVF, before they decide to adopt. It's very expensive to do IVF. I spent $50,000 on fertility treatments but I'm finally pregnant through IVF. In my old age I know I'll be glad I did IVF and didn't worry about the money. Luckily we can afford this and it's not a financial burden but I do feel guilty everyday about the money and I am slowly getting over that. I think I'll get over it the most after I have the baby.

[christinelove]

thanks so much. i am sure i want to try ivf and will wait a year until i have saved the money as well.

Originally Posted by wanna be a young mother

As long as you are healthy and under 35 and your dh ONLY has a low count.....your chance of a pregnancy through IVF is about 60-70%. I did IVF myself after trying to have a baby for 5 years (27months of infertility treatments). I got Pg during my first IVF cycle with twins. We lost baby B but baby A is my daughter Nevaeh. You also have to understand that even adoption is not a guarantee. I've heard a few stories of people who have been trying to adopt for years and then the mom's keep changing their minds at the last minute and keep the baby. Adoption also costs more then IVF at least here in Chicago it does. My IVF cycle cost us about $10,000-15,000 and adoption would have cost us $20,000-25,000 b/c of all the fee's and classes. Dont get me wrong I have nothing against adoption. I guess it all comes down to you wanting your own child. With us I promised myself that I would do EVERYTHING I could to have my own child before I adopted. So if you really want your own child then I would say go for the IVF and see. You may just get pregnant on your first cycle like I did but just remember no matter which way you go their are no guarantees. If you have any more ?'s about IVF please feel free to ask me. I really hope you can find the answer you are looking for and I wish you lots of luck!

Here is a link from my Dr.'s office on IVF and Acupuncture.....

Click here


*Also I had a much higher rate of conception for IVF b/c I was only 22 and Dh's sperm count/motility was excellent. I have PCOS which is why I had such a hard time getting pregnant.

[christinelove]

no hes just has a low sperm count from vericocele. no gene stuff but thanks.

Originally Posted by Samual

Sperm tends to be 'slow' when there is something wrong to prevent undesireable genes carrying on through the gene pool, so if conception occured it may result in an unhealthy child, you can get it all checked out though to see if that is the case or whether his sperm is just unable to form the correct shape.
But Bloody hell where ever you are adoption is expensive, here if you cannot afford the fee's you can get them paid for, ours were around £3000 per child. You have to remember wanting to adopt, doesn't mean you will be able to adopt. Not only that the whole process can be very horrible, if you are approved, it still doesn't mean you will ever be able to adopt. If you do need any advice on adoption, if you are comfortable you can ask.
I do have a question, have you thought about donor sperm?

[christinelove]

thanks i am sure that is what i want to do now.
i appreciate your sweet message. what vitamins and such did you h use to increase his count?

Originally Posted by Tracey with 6

my dh has a low sperm count , it has to do with age and health issues, NOT undesirable gene's , we helped this issue through vitamins and lifestyle choices. I would go the IVF route, if the count is the only issue you should have a high chance of succcess, good luck and bless.

[christinelove]

yes we have thought of sperm donor i just do not think I want a child without my husbands genes and if we try ivf and it does not work then we will talk more about that and adoption.
thanks for your thoughts i appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Samual

Sperm tends to be 'slow' when there is something wrong to prevent undesireable genes carrying on through the gene pool, so if conception occured it may result in an unhealthy child, you can get it all checked out though to see if that is the case or whether his sperm is just unable to form the correct shape.
But Bloody hell where ever you are adoption is expensive, here if you cannot afford the fee's you can get them paid for, ours were around £3000 per child. You have to remember wanting to adopt, doesn't mean you will be able to adopt. Not only that the whole process can be very horrible, if you are approved, it still doesn't mean you will ever be able to adopt. If you do need any advice on adoption, if you are comfortable you can ask.
I do have a question, have you thought about donor sperm?