[DivasMomma]

Ok, so reading another post (About BFing toddlers) it made me remember something I have wanted to ask here...


My 2 yr old dd is OBSESSED with showers...almost refuses to take a bath unless she gets a new toy to play with in the water. Its really hard to wash her when shes in there alone w/o getting soaked, so my DH or I get in and shower with her. Lately she has been asking ?'s about Mommy and Daddy's body parts. I answer her with the usual answers...thats Mommy's _____, or thats Daddys ____ and thats your _____, whatever she wants to know. She wonders why I shave and other questions like that.

I was just wondering if this is bad for a 2 yr old? DH is starting to feel uncomfortable with her in there with him, so lately its just been me, but is there anything really wrong with it? Is she going to be scarred for life JW everyones opinions and if they went through the same issue

[DK615617]

Ohh I am so glad you asked this, as I was wondering the same thing. I have never showered with Tiffy yet, but I remember my nieces showering with there dad when they were about 4 or 5 and my mom saying how horrible that was!!! lol

[MissyChrissy]

I think this is a decision each family should make. If your dh is uncomfortable, then it's time for her to stop showering with him. imo, as long as you're comfortable, there's nothing wrong with her showering with you. My 9-year-old still showers with me.

[twinzplus3]

I agree with Missy Chrissy. You know, we are 7 people sharing one bathroom. Parts get seen--in fact, all the time. There's just not another option at this point. I doubt anyone is being scarred for life. On a side note, dh often bathes with swim trunks if the purpose of the bath is to get the twins clean. He too wasn't so much uncomfortable with them but they take loooooonnnngggg baths and people would have to go so he was uncomfortable w/ almost 9yo dd walking in on them.

[KR258]

I don't think it will scare her. My mom took me and my sister in the shower with her to teach us how to shave...I don't know how old we were but we were old enough to shave! I also remember walking in on my dad going pee many times and he was always uncomfortable from what I remember but I just didn't get what the big deal was...I also don't remember what I saw.

[QueenAngie]

Ever consider placing DD in the kitchen sink for a bath?
Just the right heighth for Mom or Dad
and just the right size for a little one.

Of course, you need to sanitize the kitchen sink afterwards.
Just another option that is available.

The swim trunks are a good idea for your DH, Valerie. Gets the twins clean and keeps everybody comfortable.

When the child or the adult begins to feel uncomfortable,
that is the age to adjust things like showering together nude.

When our sons were very young, we'd take turns.
One would get in the shower with a child, bath the child,
and the other parent would then dry off the child and dress him.
Made it much quicker to get everybody clean.

We normally bathed our young boys in the evening as part of the winding down for bedtime.

This is a really good topic and no matter where you live in the world over, it is the same for parents and children.

[angelic_ky]

this was asked on another forum and one of the ppl had prev asked their Dr and Dr had said as long as you and the child were comfortable then it was fine

personally i haven't cos i love my long hot baths, it's my 'me time' plus the water is too hot for a child

[wanttobemommy]

my tub wouldnt stay plugged at my old house so DH and I would just shower all three of us with DS I remember taking long hot baths with my mom up until she remarried i was 8 then. I dont honestly see the huge deal as long as your comfortable with it. My step dad refused to shower with my brother though (his own son) he was just too grossed out and thought that if someone would have found out CPS would have been called. In my opinion its ok

[MiaCamille]

as long as every one is comfy with the situation i don't see a problem with it either...

[DivasMomma]

We used ot give her bath in the sink all the time! I miss those days...shes just too big now....Well im glad to see people also think it is ok....DH wont shower with anymore which is just fine, he just doesnt like her starring...i gotta bring up the bathing suit idea to him...very good idea! DD1 will jump in the shower with you with her clothes on if you dont invite her in first, so we were kinda stuck!