[JeanLynn81]

Bear with me as I get my thoughts collected, and pardon if I don't make much sense. I have a pretty bad cold and am medicated.

I think most of you know that I am a single mother, and the father is not involved. Not since she was a few weeks old. I haven't really dated. I haven't even so much as kissed a guy since then. And I have been feeling so very lonely these past few weeks! So I have been going out on a few dates. All nice guys. Really.

My problem is that lately I have been getting the I-want-another-baby blues. (And here's where my thought process isn't working-can't find right words) I know I want to be married before ever having sex again (a personal pact between me and God). So I am struggling with trying to put the "get married quick and have more babies" out of my head while I am going through this dating phase.

Should I just give up dating right now?

I think I should mention there is one guy in particular that I think has alot of potential. And my BFF likes him, which is a very rare occurence...

[twinzplus3]

Do you want to come spend the night here? One night with twins will cure you quickly?! !!!!

[punkepooh]

I wouldn't say you need to give up dating. Dating can be fun and when you settle down you may even find yourself longing for the fun of dating. . That being said, I think it is awesome that you have set a higher standard for yourself, what a great role model you are being for your daughter. Wanting another baby is normal (so I hear) once your baby isn't so much of a baby anymore. But don't rush your thoughts of marriage. Hold on to your values and enjoy the dating process getting out and meeting guys is a good way to figure out what you like as well as what you don't like.

[MiaCamille]

I agree with Erin, keep on dating and eventually you'll find someone right for you, good luck!

[mommy2067]

Ditto!! Enjoy the dating scene and perhaps the one that has lots of potential will be the one....and if not then the right one will indeed come along...Good things come to those who wait!!! You are young...no need to rush things!!! In the mean time, you get to go out and have some fun with an adult of the opposite gender and then go home to your beautiful daughter!!! All the best and keep us posted...

[mcmama]

Your bio clock is ticking, and I think it is fast. You need to give it an adjustment!

Wouldn't it be nice to meet the right guy, marry him, have another baby, and be all settled down? There are just some days when it must seem like that clock is ticking away and will this ever happen.

You know that motherhood and family are important values to you and that you do this well, and enjoy it - and you really desire someone to share that with, a husband. And build a family.

So I think you are more aware of that old clock going tick tick tick because you want this now.

Build the relationship before you build the family. You really do have time.

[MissyChrissy]

(((HUGS))) Jean. I can only imagine...I was a single mom once when Bobbie & Jessica were young. I remember how lonely & hopeless I felt about finding "that someone" special. It turned out my someone special was their dad...but he was different from your ex.

Anyway...I can only offer support & that I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to. I wish I could make everything all better...but honestly, I'm afraid I would have been more than tempted to rush into things too. So I don't really have any good advice on this one.

You do deserve the best-and so does your little girl. And I know that the desire to be a mommy again doesn't just go away after 1 more baby. Or 2 more (at least it didn't for me). So...even IF you had to wait a couple/few more years, you're just "saving the best for last" if that makes any sense. 'Cause if you had all your babies now..what would you have to look forward to? (I know-there ARE things to look forward too...but putting off having a baby is something unique and special to look forward to-not much else in life is like that).

I hope I wasn't too off the wall.

[QueenAngie]

Don't settle for 2nd best for you and your daughter.

Find the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with,
that loves your daughter, and is Prince Charming.

He might be just around the corner. You are young and have plenty of time.

There is always B.O.B.

[ProudMommy77]

Originally Posted by QueenAngie

Don't settle for 2nd best for you and your daughter.

Find the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with,
that loves your daughter, and is Prince Charming.

He might be just around the corner. You are young and have plenty of time.

She is absolutely right! You definitely want to find someone who loves your daughter just as much as you do. (My SIL didn't do that, and you should see the mess she's in and how it's effecting her older daughter.)

The advice my mother gave me in my previous relationship was "Annamae, never settle. It's for the rest of your life." And she was bang on. Luckily, that advice helped me end that relationship, and surprisingly, my knight-in-shining-armour turned out to be a friend I'd known for years.

Patience is a virtue I barely have, but I wish you luck and all the best as you begin searching the pond for fish.

[floridamama]

I agree with everyone else! Continue dating for now...when you meet the "right" person...you'll know! I know that's easier said than done! lol. I did the single mom thing too, once upon a time.
But seriously, hang in there! He's coming...I just know it! And there will be a happy marriage, and siblings for your baby girl! Just give it some time.