[mollymae]

Have you rung social services and asked to speak to the duty officer? they may be able to do the referals for you or your health visitor.

[ManjitK]

hi, is there anyway i could find out if i could serve the father at work without loosing that much amount of money? i keep getting sent through to the conact help centres when i ring the social services and i dont have a health visitor. i am at wits end with this residents order thing.

[mollymae]

How old is your child? Have you tried ringing citizens advice?

[ManjitK]

my son is 3 years old in july. i have spoken to citizen advice but they say serve the father at work but again its up to the judge to decide whether he would accept it...

[mollymae]

Well you should have a health visitor. All children from birth to 5 should have one. Contact your GP and ask who it is and how to contact them.

I would stop all contact and let him take you to court.

[ManjitK]

didnt realise a child should have a health visitor past the age of 1 to be honest...
i have decided to stop contact and let him take me to court and the funny thing is now his father has dissapeared again. havent heard from him for a week now. the last email was saying to keep joshua and he wont bother seeing him till his son tries to get in contact with him...

[mollymae]

Yep your child has a HV till they are 5. They are pretty over worked these days so don't contact you but if you need them just contact them.

Sounds like it's sort of worked out for you. Keep that email it might prove useful later on.

[ManjitK]

yes in a way for now.. i have kept every email that he has sent.thanks for your advice all the way though