[socalrunner]

So I have never had any big issues with my mom EVER. Until I got married and moved back to the state she lives in and got a new job and then that's when everything started. She stopped calling, stopped inviting me to go shop with her, hang out at the house, go out to eat, etc.

I tried calling her and suggesting we get together which resulted in a few outings but nothing compared to how our relationship used to be. I'm having trouble dealing with the fact that I feel she does not care about me any more. She has always had major depression issues but I'm not sure I can label this behavior as such.

Now she spends her days with my sister in law who does not work and has the only grandbaby in the family. I love my niece but does that mean I have to give up the thought of my mother spending time with me or calling me? My sister in law with the grandbaby no longer has a living mother (other than mine). How do I let my mom know how I feel without sounding completely selfish?

Also I got so upset and worked up about this issue that I ended up spending Christmas at my in-laws and only briefly stopping by my parent's house.

[twinzplus3]

Have you thought about offering or suggesting to spend time with both your sil and your mom at the same time? If I were you I'd just ask her why she hasn't called or simply tell her you miss and need a 'girls day out'.

[poliscmjr]

I agree with Val. Maybe spending time with the 3 of you together might help. Or the girls day out. That always seems to bring my mom and me a little closer!