[gonnabeamommy509]

It was a long time ago, but I posted about how unsupportive my bf was being about my pregnancy and his insistance that I abort the baby.Well, here's the update...I moved home to Minnesota! So I've been out here a while and this is where all of my family is, so it'll be nice!! I'm glad to be back.And here's the kicker...he calls me alllllll the time and tells me he wants me to come back and work this out. He will completly ignore the fact that I'm pregnant when we talk. When I talk to him about it or mention it to him, he won't acknowledge that I've even said anything.... Kicker number 2... this is all true EXCEPT when a male friend of mine offered to go with me to the prenatal class my doctors office requires we attend. He flipped and said there's no way that Mark (my friend) is going to a class for his baby. (Ummmm...hello??? what the heck!?) So, Mark didn't go, I went alone and felt like an idiot. And that night when my ex called me, he told me if he had the money, he'd fly out to MN and take me to the next class and sit behind me with his hands on my belly and tell me he loves me. (again...what the heck!?!?!)Since then he has gone back to his denial and could care less about the baby. So who knows what that was all about... If he drank, I'd say he was drunk that night, but he doesn't at all...so lol...I just don't know!Anyway! I'm in MN now getting ready to do it on my own!

[LovingJesusinAZ]

Wow! Good for you for moving home, to be near those who love and support you.

Your ex sounds like he's playing the "I don't want this baby, but nobody else can act like the father" game. Dumb. You did the right thing by leaving and staying away. Hopefully one day he'll "man up" and be the father he needs to be to your baby, but you don't need him to be in your life beyond his relationship with your child. It sounds like Mark, is a wonderful friend and that's terrific you have people like him in your life. I'm glad you've found the support that your ex is so unwilling to give.

Keep us posted and I'm wishing all the best for your and your little one!!!!!

[Kats Playland]

I'm glad to hear you're doing better and moving on. and I agree... Either he's playing a game with you or he might just doesn't want to take this next step of "growing" up. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything goes well.

[KR258]

He sounds just as moody as I am...I am sorry he's so confused and is confusing! I do hope that one day he'll grow up for you and his child. It's wonderful you're near family and friends!!! Hope everything with your little one keeps going good!

[Magic_Mikki]

Personally, I'm glad you moved home and got away from him! Sounds like you will definately be much better off without him.. Sometimes those kinds of dads just drag you down instead of support you. Where in MN do you live? Stephanie (stephanieinminnesota) and I both live in the St. Paul area.

[angelic_ky]

glad you have your family for support now... next time, if i was you, i would take Mark with me

[2girls]

Family is wonderful, I am glad that you were able to move back home and find the support you need right now.
I think it was the best thing for both of you, maybe now he's simply 'trying' to wake up.
He's finding out what it's like to be alone right now, and that must be what he needs.
Your friend sounds like a great guy, and I agree, take him along with you next time.

[Sgrossmann]

I also agree take Mark. If your ex has a problem tell him he had his chance and now your doing something for yourself and it has nothing to do with him. I also applaude (S?) you for leaving him and heading home. You need support and love not to be pressured to do something you don't want to. God bless you for having the strength. It couldn't have been easy.

[gonnabeamommy509]

Thank you guys! It's nice to have reassurance that I'm making a good move. I'm just waiting for someone to say "So you just took his future child across the country"... ey... And, I live in Apple Valley! So crazy you guys are right around here! I love it, not only because my family is here, but it's just so much prettier!! Not exactly looking forward to braving the winter though...haven't been back for one of those in 5 years!

[purelegance]

you know what? your ex had his chance, he made it clear he doesn't want to be apart of this baby's life. Therefore, if Mark wants to be that fatherly figure (or just your support system, because your ex isn't that either!), then ONLY you get to make that decision. i'm glad you moved home, you sound so much happier and hardly stressed at all!