[slygirrl]

Okay I swear I'm not going into anything legal this time I think this time I solely want to vent....

So the "girlfriend' is becoming more and more of an issue. What started as an argument over whether they can act like adults in fornt of my children has now come down to little more than a childish high school fight. HE is fueling it by trying to create drama between her and I (she has contacted me on myspace and said "Oh well we're going to have to talk sooner or later".... ummm well no we don't cause you have nothing to do with my situation with him, you're jumping in cause you think you can. This is OUR divorce and really you have no business being in it). I don't respsect this girls morals or the way she handles herself in front of my children and as THEIR mom I'm fully entitled to feel how I want when my kids are involved in a situation. She cannot even begin to understand the confusion that my kids are feeling (now the question has already come up "What if Daddy marries ____ ?" I won't say her name..... I know he won't because she's a rebound, but my kids shouldn't have that on their head already) no instead let's shove it up their a-- that he's hanging out with someone new. And now he's calling me every other day wanting to see if I "have a sitter" okay ya know what? It's not Monday and it's not your weekend so stop asking. He never wanted to see them HALF as much until this girl got involved.

And the messed up part is this girl has a boyfriend (she continues to tell my ex she doesn't but it's right there plain as day on myspace). Now this is drama my kids don't need to be brought into either. The entire situation is a mess, clearly this girl has some issues she needs to work out, my ex needs to focus on his kids when he does have them instead of shoving a new girl up their a--, I may not have verbalized this post real well but do you see why I'm angry? He can have a relationship that's fine, but when it starts being the sole reason you want to see your kids because she has kids and he has to force this whole little "family" thing (when they've been hanging out a little less than a month) I have an issue. I'm the one who is getting my kids into group therapy and stuff and I'm the one who has to deal with the feelings of sadness, frustration and anger that I know they harbor for the divorce as a whole. I realize divorces are not simple and a lot of people get hurt, but how does one put their own relationships, feelings and selfish wants in front of the feelings of their own children? His kids are hurting and he acts like it doesn't really exist..... ughhhh I'm just so angry about all this!!