[spiderman]

I have to say that the book by Patricia Evans has destroyed my marriage. Everything I saw and do is weighed against her words in the book, I am constantly being labelled a verbal abuser by my wife. Example-- Where are the clean towels? Response: I am washing the towels for YOU. I guess I am a horrbile houswife. Forgive the heck out of me.
Another example- Tough day at work. Honey, how was your day? It wasn't good. I really shouldn't talk about it. You can tell me. Ok, I have this go bad and this go bad a and then I cant come home a relax. Oh, so you are saying it is my fault that you cant relax at home? Oh, just forget it.

Honey, Can I talk to about this verbal abuse stuf?. I feel like you are just waiting for me to screw up to have something to label me for. It is hard living this way. Can we talk about this and discuss how WE can improve our communication.? Now way, you are not going to be putting this back on me. You are the started of these things. Ok, forget it.

Ladies.... Am I a verbal abuser? PLease tell me. I do have high anxiety and I feel like it affects the way I communicate. But I am not tryting to be controlling. I am trying so hard to give my spouse what she needs and am contually falling short.

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I love carign for others and dont know how I got into this spot.