[diosavee]

First my boyfriend was standoffish about it. Then I finally tell him how I feel and he starts to warm up to everything.
Well, I told my mom about it and she basically told me that I ****ed up and ruined my father and her lives. She also says that everyone is disappointed about this. I didn't plan it and this is a less then ideal situation to bring a child into, but nonetheless it is my baby!
Any advice on how to get people to warm up to it?
The only things I'm going to take advantage of as far as my family situation are the fact that I get housing and school free but mostly that my family owns a daycare so I can get childcare free as well. I'm going to try to schedule my classes so that I can go to school and work full time (hopefully get a job that pays at least $10 an hour). I'm keeping my old job because it allows me to do homework there. I can also bring my baby in with me need be. But when I'm not with the baby it will either be at the daycare or with Matt- my boyfriend. It's not like I want to have my parents or family watching my child. Its mine! (Well mine and my boyfriends)

... I have no idea what to do!!

[thankful]

you need to stop thinking about what everyone is thinking about you and your child. Start listening to the part of yourself that knows what will be the best for you. even if your parents are not happy with the situation at the moment......situations can change, most likely for the better. Try not to take every word as it is marked in stone. nothing should matter at this point and this point forward except for you and your childs well being. Thank god you have help!! even if it is going to be grumpy help. take it you will be glad you did. When it comes to your parents. bite your lip! and listen, and keep moving forward stay on the right road and do not sway your life and the lives around you will get better. Stay positive and know that you are going to be a huge example in this childs life. everyone has there own way of expressing themselves, now is not the time to be judgemental of others. just be judgemental of yourself! Sounds like you are doing everything you should be doing at the moment though.staying in school and working, GOOD FOR YOU!!! you will be okay if you want to be. good luck to you and your family.-. Cathy

[Momof2kids]

Well, said Cathy...another plan is to stay focus on what is right for you and your baby. Stay in school, keep your job, and plan on having this baby. You can't change people's feelings about your pregnancy but most likely they will come around. Remember they are in shock, and trying to deal with all this information so quickly. Show them that you are accepting of this and show responsibility---they will respect you for that. Actions speak louder than words. Also, don't hang on to their last words. Maybe after all this sinks in, the excitement of it all will come. Grandma/Grandpa, having a little one around.....Good Luck and remain patient with them...

[purelegance]

you have a good plan, but cathy's advice is priceless. i can't add anything to it but put my vote next to it. everyone's not going to always like what you do, they eventually get over it or out of your life. it doesn't matter anymore.

[mcmama]

Has your family offered you the free childcare? Because having been a daycare provider and center admin, I know that spaces for infants in family child care, mini centers, and regular centers are at a premium. You have high adult to child ratios to maintain, and that costs money. Will your family's business actually be willing to donate child care to you, in lieu of a paying customer who might stay with the business for 5 years or so?

If I were you, bearing this in mind, I would look at ways to pay for the child care, at a reduced rate or some type of service to the business. Don't just expect it for free, even if they have already offered it. Also, when family are involved in daycare, it is very important to have it be a business relationship, with all the policies and agreements written down about illness, absenteeism, holidays, etc. It is very common to have disagreements once you have the baby with family members who care for the baby, or with staff who work for your family's daycare business. So be sure that you have it all spelled out just like if you were a regular customer.