[nuneatonlad85]

Hi, I am new and in need of advice. I am 23, about to get married next Saturday. To my partner, she is 24. She's a teacher and I work in IT. We have a fairly busy lifestyle, but find very little time to be intimate. I went to uni, and was apart for a year from her, and she says that she went 'off' sex because I was away. We've been going out for 5 years and for the last 3-4 years living together, our sexual relationship just isnt the same as when we first started dating. I try to be spontaneous, but get rejected. I try being passionate, but get rejected, as she says "it creeps her out". I don't know what to do, but we've both said that we would get sexual counselling or what ever it is called after our wedding. Are we just simply incompatible at such a young age to be thinking about relationship counselling? We get on (normally) but spend most of our time arguing. We bicker and fall out very frequently. I am jealous that my friends, whom have been dating the same time as us, maintain their very active sex life as if they were still dating. We probably get around to it once a month! I apologise frequently too her for mentioning it as it has become a swear word pretty much. I'll be completely honest, she has very little if any sex drive. Even she has said she would rather read a book lol. I enjoy spending time with her, but am concerned our relationship with turn out to "best friends married". I hope, when reading this you dont think I am just *****ing about my future wife. I just need reassurance and advice on how to sort this. We have frequently argued in the past about personal sexual activities, she is completely against it, and I am made to feel bad about it. I get quite moody after a while when neither of us want intimacy. I have never cheated, been really faithful to her and she has to me, so no worries that i'll stray ... But surely, is this me? Or are we just not the same "wavelength" anymore?