[littleKelly]

I'm only suggesting you work at staying in shape and remain desirable looking for your husband so at least that's not an issue too.

This is very true, when i first married my husband he was very much a fitness buff as am i we both would work out and watch what we eat. about 4 years into our marriage he stopped and gained about 40 pounds now i still loved him but the man i married was not who he was at that point and i ended up having an affair solely for the physical attraction and sex. i did this for almost 2 years before he found out. and we are happier then every today becouse he realized that he cant take me for granted and he got back into shape and lost the weight. not saying the affair was the right thing, but women have to think the same. just becouse your marrie doesnt mean you dont have a commitment to him to continue to look the way as when you met. when couple let them self go its becouse they have become comfortable and have taken each other for granted thinking they wont leave, well your wrong. looks are very much important in every relationship.

[trainwithjean]

The first thing that you should be doing is talking with your pastor--the person who married you two. Ask his advice on the situation with your husband. There could be other factors as to why he has become distant--perhaps stress at work? If you sit in silence with the thoughts of infidelity in you head then you are creating your own hell. Please talk to your pastor (the person who preformed the ceremony) or go to church and get some help there. And if you need to get out agression go to the local gym and beat the heck out of the heavy bag! But don't bottle this stuff up inside because YOUR KIDS WILL sense it--even if you don't think they can... they WILL.

[Peterbndrs]

I'm doing nothing wrong with my relationship. Its just perfect, in superb shap and i'm sure it will continue to be the same forever.

[PattyIoq]

I think the only way to really solve such a problem is talking. If I was in your situation, I would ask my husband why he's acting that way. Just sitting and waiting for things to get better won't help. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.