[2girls]

Sorry, this may be a long one.
I am the 3rd of 4 children. Our oldest sister is, dare I say the black sheep of the family.
Long story short, she was pregnant at 18 (ended in m/c), got married behind the family's back, cheated on that spouse, got divorced, got re-married to the man she was cheating with, , got divorced again a few years later because she was cheating AGAIN with another man, she is now married to this man who has 3 young children. Did you follow all of that? See a pattern here?
Everytime she goes through these things, she makes it look like WE are the bad people and refuses to talk to us. She goes and does these things and tells us months later that she is getting divorced, newly engaged or married. She doesn't include us in any of her events.

She shuts us out, even mom and dad, even though they have done so much for her and given her so much. She treats us like dirt, sends my mom gifts that are clearly re-gifted or recently sent a gift that was a Chadwick's freebie last year.
Our family is very very close, except for her I guess, but she chooses this.
She used to come around for Thanksgiving and Christmas at the very least, but last year she made an excuse that she had to work and since she has been a no show for that Holiday. Last year she came for Christmas Eve, but recently made the excuse that she chooses to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with her husband and "THEIR" kids. (she doesn't have any kids of her own, they are "HIS" kids).
I suggested that we as a family choose another date to get together for Christmas if she felt so strongly about being at her own home this year, but she made the excuse that she "didn't have any free weekends available and that is why she planned accordingly".....accordingly?? accordingly for who? HER
I tried emailing her yesterday about this, and I clearly came out and asked her what we all did to make her isolate herself and her reply was that she was "not discussing this".
We as a family are stumped as to what we did that was so wrong? Why do I get the feeling that she thinks we owe her something?
If you made it this far, thanks for taking the time to read it. I don't know where else to turn right now.....