[KR258]

Your not supposed to pick up your child because of weight restrictions but she won't walk and hold your hand...or runs in the other direction and when you grab her hand she goes limp and makes you pull muscles in your tummy to keep from dropping her on the ground....and you don't always remember to bring a stroller and she can undo the buckle on the stroller!!and climbs out.....how do you teach her to behave in public? and walk with you and not get run over by a car?

[kalhayd2]

Plain old fashion discipline. She needs to learn that YOU are in charge, she's not. Right now, she probably senses that you're vulnerable because of the pregnancy and shes attempting to take advantage of the situation.
Can DH help discipline her while you're taking care of your pregnancy.

[twinzplus3]

Ditto. . .you simply don't let her.

[1stTimeMomOf2]

I agree. Do what you need to do to make her understand that her behavior is not acceptable. I am one of those who believes in a good ole fashion spanking but I understand that's not for everyone.

[KR258]

DH isn't here. Spanking doesn't do anything. She laughs when I spank her bum. I do time out at home and that works at home...but when we're not home what am I supposed to do? She doesn't have anything I can take from her...she doesn't care if we go home or not. What form of discipline???
I would just pick her up and take her with me but I can't. So now what??

[DivasMomma]

Originally Posted by 1stTimeMomOf2

I agree. Do what you need to do to make her understand that her behavior is not acceptable. I am one of those who believes in a good ole fashion spanking but I understand that's not for everyone.

i agree 100% but Jae was the same way...would laugh. So I started taking her pants down and giving it to her skin to skin....she didnt like that, it hurts much more. I wouldnt do it in public...just at home and then threaten it in public and she instantly knew to behave

[KR258]

I don't mean to be arugmentive...but I have spanked her bare butt (in public) because in public is where the problem is...and she just laughs. I spank as hard as I can and she just laughs.

[mrmnmom82]

Bust out the scary mommy voice. And have a stern face. Place her back in the stroller, firmly, and give spacific instructions. You will sit here, and you will leave the buckle alone! When my children would try to run away from me I would tell them, "That is NOT ok!! You need to be a good listener, that's not safe to run away!" And I would get down to their level. All of this after I caught up with them ofcourse.

Good luck, it will take a lot of consistancy

[twinzplus3]

Okay Kara. . .you can discipline without spanking. I'm with you, there are times when you simply cannot do it for one reason or another. You have to find something and do it consistently. For me, strapping in the stroller worked with the twins. I also would be a rich woman if I had a dime every time I simply left a store.

If she pitches a fit and you can't pick her up just stand there calmly until she's done. Not angry, not coddling--just matter of factly, "When you're done, we'll procede." Oh--and you can't forget the stroller.

However, I will also offer that with my own children, following their cues, and planning appropriate outings helps. For example, if I have to go to the grocery store, then they each get a job. Her job can be counting the apples or holding the bag or looking at colors or whatever. Get creative to keep her entertained. I don't go out before naps--ever. And I always have a snack of cheerios at least.

[kalhayd2]

Originally Posted by twinzplus3

Okay Kara. . .you can discipline without spanking. I'm with you, there are times when you simply cannot do it for one reason or another. You have to find something and do it consistently. For me, strapping in the stroller worked with the twins. I also would be a rich woman if I had a dime every time I simply left a store.

If she pitches a fit and you can't pick her up just stand there calmly until she's done. Not angry, not coddling--just matter of factly, "When you're done, we'll procede." Oh--and you can't forget the stroller.

However, I will also offer that with my own children, following their cues, and planning appropriate outings helps. For example, if I have to go to the grocery store, then they each get a job. Her job can be counting the apples or holding the bag or looking at colors or whatever. Get creative to keep her entertained. I don't go out before naps--ever. And I always have a snack of cheerios at least.

Man, you could write a behaviroal plan!!

Seriously, though, Kara. I totally agree with Val. Shocking, I know.
When I implied to discipline her, I didn't mean to spank her. I am NOT against spankings when needed, but think LOTS of other ways are WAY more affective, YKWIM?
She's old enough to understand what you expect of her. She may need a friendly reminder pre-store. Get down at her level and explain HOW you expect her to behave. A busy child is FAR less likely to get into mischief.
If you threaten to leave, then leave. STAY consistant so she knows you mean buisness.

Lots and lots of luck