[AussieD]

What is the best advice about marriage you received either before or after you were married? Have you followed it and how did it work in practice? Have a look at what one couple did. http://marriage.families.com/blog/a-...marital-advice What do you think of the idea?

[Magic_Mikki]

I guess I was expecting the article to reveal the one piece of advice that they thought was the best, and tell us how it worked out! But it didn't. So the "idea" that you're refering to is Kitchen Tea and Bucks' Night insted of bachelor and bachelorette parties?

[Adara]

Uhm, they told me not to do it. I didn't listen. They were right.

[AussieD]

MagiMikki,
No the idea wasn't the kitchen tea etc but that they sought advice from experienced couples about marriage. They didn't tell other people what the best advice was, so I couldn't tell you what advice they received..I just thought it was good they took their marriage seriusly enough that they asked for advice and took note of it.
My advice was in the article- not to go to be angry and never let a day pass without saying 'I love you' to your spouse and finding a way to show it.

[Ohenebakwaku]

I think i have got the idear which says give more then you expert and you will receive more then your expertation,than all isw about giveing.

[MissyChrissy]

Oh boy-I've received lots of excellent advice. One of my favorites (and it works) is to act like you love him the bestest-even when you don't feel it. When you're irritated he didn't mow the lawn, or he didn't take out the trash...rather than nag him, make him a sandwich and bring him a soda. When he does do the things he wants you do to, thank him. And brag about him to your family and friends. Leave out what he didn't do, or how he didn't please you.

eta: This may sound like little susie-homemaker and that the wife is setting herself up to be taken advantage of, but I swear it works. My dh does more around our house than any 10 husbands I know. He almost always has dinner done before I get home, he does his own laundry, yesterday he ran the vacuum 'cause it needed to be done. The list is endless. I never have to ask him to do it...he just does. And I brag about it all the time.

[mcmama]

Originally Posted by Ohenebakwaku

I think i have got the idear which says give more then you expert and you will receive more then your expertation,than all isw about giveing.

This reminds me of something that one of my college professors used to say:
"Marriage is a 50 50 proposition. Each partner gives 100%. "

It is very much a sharing and a partnership.

[AussieD]

That's exactly it - sharing and a partnership, with each one trying to please and encourage the other.Some good points mentioned. And a little praise and encouragement does work wonders.

[chio88]

Marriage is not an easy thing...

[Chipwag64]

It's great to get advice from many who have had wonderful marriages for many decades.
I'm sure that there are many general things to say or do that will work and keep the marriage alive and exciting.
One general thing that ALL marriages need is simply time together.
Spending time together keeps outside intruders from infiltrating the boundaries that you hopefully have set up to guard your marriage.
Spending time together shows without words that your spouse is that important, more than entertaining yourself, more than your closest friend,more than being alone.
But most importantly, spending time together will help you to understand and get to know more deeply the one that you love, and THEN the specifics of how to please them will come.I truly believe that EVERY spouse just loves to be known by their spouse.
What do they love, what do they hate, what is their favorite food,what activities do they enjoy...etc.For men like myself, we tend not to be good listeners and I have failed miserably in the past at listening INTENTLY to my wife; I had the time together part down pat, but the time was not fruitful because it wasn't spent wisely, it was more selfish time than together time.
Speaking of time, I shudder when I think of how quickly our lives speed along and how many years were lost because I never took the time to KNOW my wife.